Ask Women on Sidechat | I need opinions. My roommate is a long time best friend of mine and she recently broke up with her bf of three years. After a week I finally saw her happy again and I think it just awoke some feelings inside of me, and made me realize I am in love (1/?)

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I need opinions. My roommate is a long time best friend of mine and she recently broke up with her bf of three years. After a week I finally saw her happy again and I think it just awoke some feelings inside of me, and made me realize I am in love (1/?)

Anonymous 3d

Your roommate recently broke up with her bf and you, a woman I presume, are in love with her? I mean, is she bisexual? Is she into women? If you tell her you have feelings beyond friendship, that could absolutely make things awkward.

Anonymous 3d

to continue. I used to like her back in freshman year of high school, but moved on. But I think between that and also a conversation we had where we were talking about everything that happened between them, she mentioned that she really wished how he would pay attention and actively listen in their conversations, and how she really liked that about me. I feel weird and like it would he very selfish of me to tell her how I feel now, since she recently broke up with him. (2/?)

Anonymous 3d

It is so rare to have a genuine connection like the one you described. I hope everything works well for you!

Anonymous 2d

I’d advice on not doing anything about it at the current moment. She’s probably going through shit, and I also think it would be wise to take time and see if you’re truly into her, or just romanticizing the possibility of it. Either way, good luck <3

Anonymous

OP 3d

In addition I support her through a lot of stuff she has going on and shes been depending on me to be there for her, and I really dont want to mess that up. Furthermore, she is also going to be away this summer from everyone she knows, and I really dont want to push her away for her own sake because I am afraid that she wont have someone there if her mental health gets really bad. In addition we are living together next year as well. (3/4)

Anonymous

OP 3d

To finally cap it off she wants just me and her to live together after I graduate and shes in her senior year, which I think that would be really good for us both since shes been the best roomate ive had. I really dont want to make things awkward between us by telling her I love her, but I also dont want to bottle up these feelings since I want to move on if she does not feel the same. Regardless I still want to be her best friend because we look out for one another.

Anonymous

#2 3d

Okay, but like should I tell her how I feel or not. Im scared of hurting her, or pushing her away, so I have no idea what I should do

Anonymous

#3 3d

No im a guy. What im really worried about is if she doesn’t feel the same as me, that things will become awkward between us as friends. I really worry about her mental health, and over the past 2 years of college, she said that if it wasn’t for me she would have most likely dropped out. She has so much potential and shes so smart and I want to be able to be there for her as much as I can because I admire her greatly. (1/2)

Anonymous

OP 3d

I just worry that if she goes through another rough patch that she wont want to reach out to me, and that she will go through it alone. I just really dont want to see her hurt, and I want to be there to support her no matter what, regardless of how she feels about me. But I also dont want her to push me away because (I know it sounds selfish) I dont know if she can do it alone. Over the past 2 years in college ive been the only one near her to notice things like skipping meals (2/3)

Anonymous

OP 3d

and when her mental health is worsening. I just want to be there for her to pull her out of that or at the very least someone she can depend on. But I feel like its eating me alive feeling this way about her and not knowing. It’s just been recent that I started feeling in love for her, and I think part of me hopes that she feels the same way so that I can continue to be around her. But part of me is scared that she will isolate herself. I wish i could just not be in love I hate this

Anonymous

OP 3d

Give her space. Personally, I don’t think it’s a good idea to let her know how you feel right now considering you already know everything she’s going through. I don’t think you should overwhelm her. Give her time. When the time is right, in the future, and you feel like you are maybe getting a good vibe from her, maybe you can let her know how you feel but for now and the near future, give her space and time to reflect and recover from everything. Just be there for her as a friend.

Anonymous

#3 3d

Okay thank you. Thats what Ill do. Ive just been wavering on it, and I just want to do whats best her.

Anonymous

OP 3d

A good hefty turd’ll do the trick

Anonymous

#1 3d

Right on her chest