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Ask Women 13h
i’m a guy and i’ve always been the relationship kind and have never done a hookup, but i’m trying one tonight, do any of you have any tips and how to differ them like i’m not trying to be a lover boy if that’s not wanted
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Anonymous 12h

Focus on her and she might come back for more. Every hookup I’ve had literally sucks and they didn’t even try to make me cum. Plus she’ll be wetter which is a bonus

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Anonymous 6h

so i think it went a little too well like she told me beforehand like “don’t get attached because im not the type to do that” so i was like ok and so um at the end she said she’s never finished that much in her life which is good? i think.. kinda sad but anyways i fucked up and i made like eye contact with her for like 10 minutes and afterwards she said “i might actually be getting attached to you” and she hugged me and i think she was whether tired before or i tired her out because she is

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10h

oh so just because this is my first hookup doesn’t mean she’s not going to cum, like she cums first idgaf like she’ll cum 3 times before i even cum once and that’s a promise like idc i just wanna know if im supposed to act or say something differently than when i do it in relationships

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9h

I mean it makes me uncomfortable if a hookup/fuck buddy gets too emotional. I need to keep my emotions out of it all if it’s casual, so I don’t want to have to feel the need to support theirs. I’m on my first FB and he’s gotten too emotional before and I had to pull back and talk to him about it. We 100% are not each other’s person but I understand how easily a physical relationship ties the heart because it does it to me. Oh and if you are relationship geared and you want to repeat,

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9h

Don’t talk to each other for at least a few days after. Let your oxytocin levels go down to normal.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9h

And if you’re relationship prone and want to keep it casual, don’t do anything with anyone that’s an actual friend. Don’t get to know them outside of their preferences, limits, what you did right, areas to improve, and their testing status. You aren’t dating and being a friend will ensure you get there or at least want to.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6h

i really really appreciate your advice and i have an update

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6h

passed out on my couch, like it was great sex like don’t get me wrong but like why would she say that when she said beforehand she’s not the type to get attached?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2h

Holy defensive, I’ve never had a hookup where they even tried to make me cum😂 and the one who did now we’re dating and I’m having his baby

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2h

The same hormone women get when they have orgasms are the same hormone as “love” in our brain: oxytocin. It could go away when she gets farther from those moments but maybe don’t go back for more unless you think it could be cool to date her, don’t go back unless there’s at least a small possibility for relationship

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