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If your partner opened up ab having anger issues and urges, what are things you would want to hear that could help reassure you? I thought since I had a handle on it I didn’t need to bring it up, but I def found small releases of it in past relationships
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Anonymous 2w

Hm, well for me I have strong triggers for certain forms of rage release. I’m currently working on that myself. So clean cut, very vulnerable conversations would help me. I would want to be checked and I would need the freedom of checking you, appropriately of course. I hope this helps.

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Anonymous 2w

I would like to hear that he’s in therapy and doing lots of work to improve. I don’t want another man like my dad in my life. If he’s not actively trying to work through it I would leave

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Anonymous 2w

It’s something I feel like I need to bring up so I can be help accountable if small things slip past me again and don’t get thought of as quirks that have to be put up with

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Anonymous 1w

It seems like you’ve done a lot to improve yourself, great work! I’m sure that would be very encouraging to a partner!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Things I’ve done to work on it / myself in general: - Gone to therapy - Quit porn - Quit weed - Strong limits on alcohol - Apologized to friends I’ve hurt in the past

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Also I’ve never actually hit anyone

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I don’t actually do anything rage release wise. If I’m angry I can calm myself down. My problems are more spontaneous, like intrusive thoughts esc

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Oh, like impulsive?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

That makes sense, the whole reason I feel the need to bring it up to them is because I want to put in check if I accidentally slip up, so I can work on it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Yea that’s the better word for it lol

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