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Show too much interest in a girl they get the ick—show too little interest and they think ur not interested
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Anonymous 5d

Personally I really like when guys show that they’re interested and put in a lot of effort but I also know people who don’t like that. Just do what comes natural to you and I think if it’s the right person it’ll work out

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Anonymous 5d

It’s a tough balance, women want to be invited to things and feel welcomed into spending time with you, but they also don’t want to feel obligated before things become to serious

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Anonymous 5d

She either likes you or she doesn’t.

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Anonymous 5d

define too much and too little

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Anonymous 5d

Wrong????

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

That’s kinda my point…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

well I just didn’t know if you meant like actually loving or like stalkerish behaviors disguised as “love”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

Nah, like when ur just having a conversation with a girl over text—just like how fast u reply, or how engaged u r in the convo, stuff like that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

Omfg dude I know why do we have rules on how fast or how much to text someone? If I’m interested, you best believe I’m gonna talk as much as I can with them! I don’t wanna keep playing social games with potential partners

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

Right! It’s like u can’t seem to fucking win

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

Fr 🫩💔

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

I’m gonna be honest most women don’t have these rules for how much you text or stuff.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 5d

Wish it was that simple

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

It usually is that simple.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

as a woman, it’s so attractive when guys don’t wait hours to reply to me. the “rule” for waiting is so dumb, don’t play hard to get whether you’re male or female

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

You can win as long as she likes you. If she doesn’t like you, you can’t win

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5d

Ok so if I hit up and finish a long convo with a girl for the first time, I kinda just don’t hit her up again till she reaches out to me first herself after that (even if I feel like reaching out abt something). That way the ball is in her court comfort wise if she actually wants to talk to me as opposed to someone that might’ve just wanted attention or was just being nice or something before

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5d

^is that a good policy or should I reach out anyway?

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 5d

i totally get where you’re coming from, and it’s a good idea to take things slow in the beginning. when you know her better don’t be afraid to reach out more frequently (assuming she’s okay with it)! in my original comment i was mainly referring to people waiting hours to respond because of rules someone made up lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5d

and of course it’s subjective, so see what works for both of you and let it go from there :)

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