Ask Women on Sidechat | Am i wrong for not understanding the discourse on guys weighing girls after them saying height matters? Height/ weight are two different metrics, both matter to both genders. Ive absolutely seen men want specific heights and women want specific builds

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Ask Women 11w

Am i wrong for not understanding the discourse on guys weighing girls after them saying height matters? Height/ weight are two different metrics, both matter to both genders. Ive absolutely seen men want specific heights and women want specific builds

Anonymous 11w

"the discourse" exists just to generate views on social media. if you're wondering why it's a big deal, you're on the right track

Anonymous 11w

because street interview content is degenerate and lowbrow, no matter what ragebait tactics are being used

Anonymous 11w

It’s never done in the context of two people meeting and genuinely trying to connect. Usually it’s just a guy with a microphone trying to make fat women feel bad for having any sort of standard. Women never do this to short men. If you must compare metrics to decide whether or not to date someone, you don’t need to post it online and certainly don’t need to do it to strangers who never wanted to date you anyway.

Anonymous 11w

I think it’s because weight is influenced by many factors and isn’t carried the same amongst everyone, someone who’s a bit chubby could have the same weight as someone who’s muscular at around the same height etc

Anonymous 11w

I think letting weight or height be the sole reason you don’t like a person is weird. Height is not really something you can change and weight fluctuates constantly. You also don’t know why they are that weight or how healthy they are just from that. Preferences are fine but weighing people seems too far

Anonymous 11w

*a thousand other things

Anonymous 11w

That is the exact point. Weight is so menial in comparison it should be no issue as it is easily changeable

Anonymous

#1 11w

Plus weight changes throughout adult life much much more than height does

Anonymous

#3 11w

i absolutely agree!!! i just think its weird to weigh people on the street when they say height matters, but generally speaking its obviously not the only factor

Anonymous 11w

is english your first language?

Anonymous 11w

Are you inventing a standard in response to hers, or simply making your own standards? Because there’s a huge difference. The second option is normal human behavior— you know what you want and don’t entertain ppl you don’t like. Totally normal, fully within your right. You don’t owe anyone a date, ever.

Anonymous 11w

The first option involves you giving up some of your autonomy out of spite. How? If you initially did not care much about weight, you might go for a heavier person that you find attractive. If you hearing that person set a boundary (e.g., no short ppl) makes you want to set your own transactional boundary in response, you’re no longer following your own clear-cut boundaries.

Anonymous 11w

ok so im curious, for you, your immediate thought if they bring up height is their weight? is it because its something thry are insecure about that you can rag on? or would you also think height because thats obviously the equivalent of

Anonymous 11w

but if they bring up something, why compare at all? why not just find someone that likes you and you like them?

Anonymous 11w

but then why contribute to the toxicity? obviously treat others the way you want to be treated extends to you correct? why not be the bigger person and move on?

Anonymous 11w

so you can't type?

Anonymous

#3 11w

I mean dude fat chicks are not attractive unless you have a fetish for it

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Anonymous

#7 11w

To you maybe. Doesn’t mean that’s how it is for everyone, or something you need to say