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aita for not dating men who don’t have jobs? my friend said i just was shallow for it but i have 3 jobs so i don’t think it’s that crazy to want to be with someone who has some form of income
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Anonymous 2w

I mean youre not an asshole for having an opinion / preference. You might pass up some great guys who are in between jobs but that’s your decision

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Anonymous 2w

You wouldn’t even be the asshole if you refused to date guys with elbows. Nobody is entitled to you.

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Anonymous 2w

I wouldn’t say you’re an asshole but I do think the reason why they don’t have jobs matters, so I would just be careful about blindly dismissing someone over something that could be out of their control (we’ve heard of so many cases of people applying to an endless number of jobs and still not finding anything for example). There could also be medical/health or mental reasons. I think the reason for being unemployed is important but everyone is entitled to their preferences you can literally not

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Anonymous 2w

I wouldn’t say you’re an asshole, I would just be wary of people just using you because of income. As long as you’re happy though seems good to me

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Anonymous 1w

How bad were you at the first two jobs that you needed a third? Very pick me.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

Want to be with someone that doesn’t like a certain show or likes to do an activity you hate and that would be ok lol but for being unemployed I would just be careful to figure out the reason why because I think that parameter isn’t a good one to judge someone on as it can be for a reason out of their control.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

the reason why doesn’t really matter to me, i don’t think being unemployed is a moral flaw or means that someone isn’t a good person/could be a good partner. i just think pursuing or getting into a new relationship with someone who is unemployed would not match my lifestyle. also just since this could be a criticism, i would stay with someone if they lost their job while we were actively dating since the connection has been built

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