Anonymous #1 3w

Of course, it's to the best of your knowledge. I assume people who have encountered this behavior or are aware of it won't hesitate to report it in an anonymous poll. If anything, there's likely a greater risk of double counting than underreporting, since I assume people are likely tell each other privately about these issues but not go to law enforcement.

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Anonymous #3 3w

Including your dad, brothers, and all the men you know? Do you think they are hiding their sexual crimes from you?

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Anonymous OP 3w

...Do you think they would share them with me? My point isn't that I affirmatively think they're hiding them from me, but there's literally no way I would know

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Anonymous OP 3w

i am going to answer this like it's being asked in good faith, although i suspect that it isn't. i think of gisele pelicot's uncovered rapists who had wives, sisters, daughters, female coworkers. i'm sure they were shocked and taken aback. same goes w the millions of men committing less publicized crimes. i certainly hope none of the men in my life have done similar things, and i generally trust my own judgement of character. but ultimately you can never be 100% certain.

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Anonymous #4 3w

very well said.

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Anonymous #4 3w

12.5% of terrorist attacks globally are committed by "Muslims". Do you exercise caution around Muslims? Black men account for 56% of homicides - are you extra paranoid around black men? Almost all infanticide is carried out by mothers - do you assume they likely have or would? 1 in 4 men in the U.S. have experienced sexual violence (and men are even less likely to share this with anyone due to societal standards) - should men be paranoid around all women as a result?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 3w

I think my question is - what is your reasoning for suspecting a third of these men are engaging in this disgusting conduct? Don't get me wrong. I would tell my daughter to be careful around men, because I know men. But based on the men I know, I also believe an overwhelming majority of men wouldn't hurt a woman. What about a third of those men you know (or men in general) makes you think they would commit a sex crime?

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Anonymous #3 3w

this was supposed to be a reply to OP but it didn't chain on the thread and I'm sure as hell not retyping it

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Anonymous #3 3w

The question isn't about whether you are scared or sexual assault or infanticide but about the reasoning you're applying to arrive at how you approach these groups of people, and whether you apply that reasoning consistently. If 80% of women have experienced sexual violence at the hands of a man, then that means we should treat all men with suspicion. Similarly, if half of homicides are committed by black people, should we treat all black people with suspicion?

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Anonymous OP 3w

I know you're just trying to further your agenda here but the fact that you think that's a well structured question is crazy. Many women are sexually assaulted. Not many people are murdered. That's where the difference comes from

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Anonymous #3 3w

So can you articulate the rule or reasoning? Is it: "If a significant percentage of a group of people (women) experience a crime at the hands of another group (men), it is acceptable to cast suspicion on all members of that latter group of people"?

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Anonymous OP 3w

it's not a matter of it being acceptable or not, it is going to happen regardless because sexual assault is rarely reported and even more rarely punished so the idea that anyone you talk to could have gotten away with it is fairly reasonable. that is very different from something like murder or a terrorist attack.

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Anonymous #3 3w

So the rule is: "If a significant percentage of a group of people (women) experience a crime at the hands of another group (men), then it is going to happen regardless because sexual assault is rarely reported or punished"? This sounds like a tautology. I'm asking what is your reasoning for suspecting all men of committing sex crimes, not of the inevitability of becoming a victim.

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Anonymous OP 3w

Sexual harassment is something that I have experienced. I’ve never met a woman- or frankly a girl who has not experienced that to a certain extent. Whether or not they realize it, making comments about women’s bodies, just staring at our breasts and not our eyes, saying disgusting stuff? That’s all harassment. And I’ve experienced a lot of that. And so has every person I know.

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Anonymous OP 3w

you're being dense on purpose and I have no interest in continuing this conversation.

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Anonymous #3 3w

I really am not. I'm just trying to get a crystal clear one-sentence answer that describes your logic here, because I'm interested to see if you would apply that logic broadly beyond man-on-woman instances of sexual harassment and violence.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 3w

I agree that a significant percentage of men have probably made improper sexual comments to women and made women uncomfortable by looking at them. I think men need more education to understand that's not acceptable. Do you think you father, brother, or partners have never (mistakenly) done that? Do you think they'll rape a woman because they made an unfortunate comment that made a woman feel objectified and uncomfortable?

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Anonymous OP 3w

male survivors of violence and abuse have all my sympathies. and most of this violence against men is by other men, tard

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Anonymous OP 3w

You did not ask if I thought they would rape women. You specifically asked in your original post about what percentage of men do I think have made a sexual comment, sexually harassed OR raped. Not all of them. I do not think most men will rape. I do think most men (and that includes men I am friends with and my family) have said things that are questionable to women.

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Anonymous #7 2w

I answered <25% because it’s the most inclusive section that represents real statistics though. In anonymous surveys, 4-16% admit to raping someone. It’s BAD.

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Anonymous #7 2w

Something wonky is happening with the comments. FYI to whoever asked me if I suspect the men in close proximity with me: I do. There are registered sex offenders in my family, I have met at least 4 rapists (3 male 1 female), had sexual boundaries overstepped by someone I trusted. No I do not just trust men because I have known them along time. That’s just the shit they failed to hide.

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Anonymous OP 2w

you’d sure think so! unfortunately more often than not, people who are close with sexual predators tend to “not count” them. it’s that “you’re one of the good ones” bias. i say this as someone who was raised in a home with a predator for a brother. hush hush is usually the route people go, even pushing themselves into denial. besides, this is just bad data. it’d be better to have a poll with number ranges for individuals encountered and see the percentages of responses. you’re doing it backwards

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Anonymous OP 2w

it’s actually extremely common to not tell anyone if someone close to you SAed you for fear of consequences or retribution

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Anonymous #10 2w

4-16% of college men admit to rape in anonymous surveys. So no, it’s not less than 1%. It is a global pandemic

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