Anonymous #1 5w

He broke up because he wasn’t feeling as heard in our relationship and I did some reflecting myself and noticed that I was a bit too nit picky. We talked on the phone for 4 hours yesterday and have texted a little. He said that he does really love me but I just don’t know if he’s going to use this time apart (if we even do get back together) to have some freedom

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Anonymous OP 5w

So what? Yall are broken up. And if you really do see yourself as part of the issue work on yourself. Breaking up isn't always only benefiting one party.

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Anonymous #2 5w

And its the fact that its a break up and not just a break

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Anonymous #2 5w

But we’re more so treating it like a break.. I just could not go back to him if I found out that he was actively pursuing women while still keeping me as a backup

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Anonymous OP 5w

But why is it not a break? Honestly i might be a pessimist but i don't see the outcome of getting back together being bright

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Anonymous #2 5w

I don’t really know honestly. He was initially closed off to having a long talk about everything so before we talked yesterday, he just said “I hope you find your person”

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Anonymous OP 5w

Oh....yea he sounds done. I think now you should worry more about moving on past him

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Anonymous OP 5w

Does he know this is a "break" kind of break up?

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Anonymous #2 5w

He was the one yesterday saying that he still wants me and that maybe he just needs some time to try to figure out how to communicate better. I didn’t say anything about getting back together, he was the one bringing it up

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Anonymous OP 5w

I think he was just more trying to make you feel good and he is sort of done with you, that’s just how I would be too as a man. I’d just say whatever to get through the talk I didn’t want to have in the first place.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Do you think maybe he did because he didn't want to upset you further?

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Anonymous #1 5w

Damn

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Anonymous #1 5w

This!

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Anonymous #2 5w

Idk he seemed really genuine and he said that he was glad that we talked.. and at the end of the call he said “talk to you later”.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Yeah that’s called common courtesy. I say “cya” as a goodbye to everyone regardless of whether I will ever talk to them again.

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Anonymous #1 5w

Do you think it’s worth asking if he sees this as a true break or just a final break up?

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Anonymous OP 5w

No because he may not tell you the truth. I think you need to leave him alone and work on yourself.

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Anonymous OP 5w

If you can’t stand the thought of going back to him after he’s been with other girls (I) you should have treated him better and (ii) you’re probably not the one for him

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Anonymous OP 5w

Yea despite who's fault it is for the end of the relationship this sounds like the end. "I hope you find your person" means that he is over this relationship. Now work on yourself and your peace

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Anonymous #2 5w

Well he said that before we talked yesterday and we cleared up some major miscommunication that let our relationship get bad. But during the call he was saying that he still wants me and that maybe we can use this time to reflect more and find each other again. And we’ve been in decent contact ever since the call

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Anonymous OP 5w

I think you're beating a dead horse

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Anonymous #2 5w

Okay 😭

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