Ask Women on Sidechat | We need to stop villainizing men who catch feeling for girl friends. People can’t control who they catch feelings for. It happens. It’s not a big deal. Just talk it through. Communicate like adults. Obviously there’s extraneous circumstances tho

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Ask Women 1d

We need to stop villainizing men who catch feeling for girl friends. People can’t control who they catch feelings for. It happens. It’s not a big deal. Just talk it through. Communicate like adults. Obviously there’s extraneous circumstances tho

Anonymous 1d

Completely agree with this and it’s really annoying seeing other women talk about friends catching feelings like they’re being harassed. A lot of healthy relationships come from friendships, encouraging men to never get to know women first and just do cold approaches will just make dating way more boring than it already is

Anonymous 1d

I’ve never had someone confess to me where they continued being my friend afterward. It’s gonna sound cruel, but I hate it because it feels like my friendship doesn’t matter. They say the like me, but they clearly don’t like me enough to get over their awkwardness. They don’t like me enough to be my friend. I’m only worth is if I’m “more”

Anonymous 1d

Imagine working up the courage to tell your best friend that you like them and they say something like this. These people are not your friend.

Anonymous 1d

I agree but this isn’t a question. And unfortunately there are some people out there that think that by being friends with someone that means they are owed a relationship

Anonymous 1d

Like I know there’s dudes who will continuously make moves even though the girl has made it clear she’s not interested. And that’s messed up. But unless you’ve talked about it, one of you has gotta man up and communicate about it or it’ll ruin the friendship regardless

Anonymous 1d

I unfortunately caught feelings for my girl best friend last year, I didn’t want to but it happened. She was obviously dreading the conversation but we talked it through and boom zero problems since then. All it takes is a conversation.

Anonymous 1d

And if someone keeps bothering you? Drop em

Anonymous

#1 1d

Half of the posts in here aren’t questions anymore, it’s gonna start a discussion either way so it doesn’t really matter. But I think those people are terrible. No one owes anyone anything other than respect if you’re best friends.

Anonymous

OP 1d

I mean my case is different as I am aromantic and have no romantic attraction. I make this very clear to all my friends just in case because I don’t want anyone to get one sided feelings and get hurt. Despite this I still get confessed to which on its own is fine but multiple times the people I thought were my friends get upset that I don’t like them back. It sucks

Anonymous

#2 1d

Is it disappointing when you just want to be friends with someone and they catch feelings? A little bit yeah but I can just say no thanks and move on. If they get weird about it then yeah that’s when it becomes a problem

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Anonymous

OP 1d

There’s a reason we feel that way though. I’m not saying it’s good, because it’s not. But there is a reason we react that way. I’ve had so many male friendships that ended up with them liking me. The problem isn’t confessing. The problem is the rejection and the refusal to be friends or treat me well afterwards.

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 1d

That’s a problem! Ofc. Those people were never your friends.

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Anonymous

OP 1d

That’s a lot of what I at least talk about with it. Ending up liking your friend is pretty normal. It’s how you take rejection and whether or not you accept it.

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 1d

100%

Anonymous

#4 1d

That’s terribly unfortunate and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that. Those people were never your friends.

Anonymous

#1 21h

Confessing I can understand, getting upset that you don’t like them back? Messed up :(