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Ask Men 16w
Why do people get so mad when you call them out for a red flagšŸ˜­ I said ā€œhaving a boyfriend 24/7 and none of them lasting long term is a red flagā€ and she proceeded to go on a rant about how each of the relationships werenā€™t her fault šŸ’€
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Anonymous 16w

I think people interpret ā€œred flagā€ as a dealbreaker, when imo it is more of something to look out for/be wary of

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Anonymous 16w

i mean like if it wasn't her fault then i see why she defended herself

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Anonymous 16w

I mean you insulted themā€¦

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Anonymous 16w

As a girl that constantly gets screwed over by men and i dont feel like i do anything wrong i kinda get it

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Anonymous 15w

from what you said i agree. if you keep having bad bf after bad bf, you either have terrible luck or you're not good at choosing the right people. ofc you can blame men's bad behavior, but it can get to a point where the woman just didn't put any effort into actually finding a good person

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

Yeah the red flag was that, a red flag. Her response to me saying that however is definitely a dealbreaker

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

Yellow flag would be that for me red flag would be deal breaker

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

Red flag is objectively a dealbreaker. Thereā€™s no interpretation, just like how a red light means stop.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

Because it being your fault it ended or not the fact that she had 13 boyfriends in 2 years sorta shows an individual who doesnā€™t heal from past relationships and just jumps to the next person to give her attention. Iā€™m not interested in being a rental for two months.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

okay yeah 13 is a lot, but were they boyfriends or fwbs

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

Does that really matter? 13 people in 2 years is just screaming commitment issues. She may be a great person but thats fs a red flag when looking for a long term partner

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

was it established that she was looking for a long term partner?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

Yeah

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15w

idk man, i would've given her the benefit of the doubt. what other reasons do u have to not trust her

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

Itā€™s not that i donā€™t trust her. Itā€™s exactly as i stated before thats just a red flag

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