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I need advice about my ex who wants to get back with me. He’s said some things and I’m not sure what to think of them
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Anonymous 9w

Send this to him, let him respond, leave him on delievered for 12 hours, then block him

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Anonymous 9w

imo, don’t. but I think a better question is, if one of your friends, or your (hypothetical) kid, or one of your parents approached you and asked if they should get back with their ex, what would you tell them?

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Anonymous 9w

Its almost always not worth it

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Anonymous 9w

in my opinion, i think that you’ve got to know what you do and don’t want out of a relationship and whether he can meet those needs without change. you can’t invest time and effort into someone and hope that they’ll use that to better themselves. They have to want that for themselves, and they have to figure it out on their own. You can be open to the possibility but seeing is believing, and if you don’t see the change then there’s no point investing your time back into that cycle

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Anonymous 9w

Naa i gotchu

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Anonymous 9w

This is what he said: - He misses me more than he thought he would. He said he’s been so anxious about it and throwing up. - He said he’s keeps seeing photos of us and thinking that he wants to make more memories with me. - He said he loved every version of me. - We disagreed on politics and said I would be surprised how much his beliefs have changed. - He said he isn’t even able to think about anyone else (it’s only been a month).

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

(Pt 2) - He said he was too scared to fully commit (we were together for 2 years?). But I guess in terms of letting himself be fully open with his emotions to me. - Said he was scared I would go off and meet someone better, and that’s why he let things die out/didn’t put in as much effort as he could. - He said he would be better in the ways that mattered. - He also said (when we broke up) that I would have been easy to take advantage of, and that he was careful not to?

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Anonymous replying to -> freestyle 9w

Okay if you say so

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

I would probably say no… But also, it complicates things becuase he has changed for the better in the past.

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Anonymous replying to -> pirosnake 9w

Literally everyone is saying don’t do it, you might be right

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

i’m sorry the fact that he claims to have changed so much in a month when u guys were dating for TWO YEARS isn’t very believable to me¯\_(ツ)_/¯ also a lot of these things are him going “me! me! me!” and saying that u would be “easy to take advantage of” is actually crazy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Easy to take advantage of? Gross

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 9w

i also just read what you said he said to you and ngl i’d block him and stick to the on to bigger and better mindset lowk. we also sounds like avoidant and baby never chase a man who actively runs from his emotions

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 9w

I think the fact you’re hesitating means you probably already know deep down this is not the move

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

if u would like (and haven’t replied to him yet) may i also suggest this meme

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