Anonymous #2 5d

Mostly because I barely have any, most of my friends are girls

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Anonymous OP 5d

Is that really it? You’re concerned with the demographic makeup of your friend group?

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Anonymous #2 5d

No, I just barely know how to interact with straight men as a gay guy.

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Anonymous OP 5d

It would be nice to have different perspectives and experiences around me. I like getting to know all kinds of people. It would be nice to have a few more to relate to in different ways.

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Anonymous OP 5d

Why would you not solely care about if you like being around them? They’re your friends, not your congressional committee. Straight guys rarely think about that sort of thing, if ever. If you want to make friends with straight guys, you have to do 2 things: 1. Be likeable to straight guys. 2. Genuinely enjoy their company in and of itself, not as a means to “get their perspective.” You aren’t on a safari, this isn’t a field study. You aren’t there to take surveys. You’re there to have fun.

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Anonymous OP 5d

I say this as a straight guy with a gay best friend

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Anonymous #2 5d

Okay first of all, I don’t know where the fuck all this hostility and condescending tone is coming from. It honestly isn’t that fucking deep, I don’t know why you’re overanalyzing my words.

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Anonymous OP 5d

Second of all, you’re reading way too fucking much into what I just said. I’m not treating them like a fucking study. Third of all, being likeable or genuinely liking them isn’t the issue. I do genuinely like them and can get along just fine. I just don’t know how to talk to them or start a conversation in general. You’re acting like I want to use them as some fucking guinea pigs in my master plan or some shit. All I said is that it would be nice to have some straight male friends 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous OP 5d

I’m allowed to want to have male friends and I know how to treat it like an actual friendship, thank you very much.

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Anonymous OP 5d

Overanalyzing? I was just being direct with my advice, no hostility was intended. You said you “barely know how to interact with them” but now you’re saying you “can get along just fine?” Nobody is trying to police who you can and can’t be friends with. Do you make a habit of taking offense to mere suggestions? Maybe that’s why you don’t have straight guy friends

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Anonymous #2 4d

Okay clearly you don’t fucking know what overanalyzing is, and it shows. I said I would like to have more straight friends, I give you a simple explanation, and you act like it’s some big deal. I’m not “taking offense.” I’m expressing my frustration with your condescending ass tone?? Like I already said, I can get along with straight guys fine once I’m actually talking to them. I just struggle with initiating it. Meaning I can be likeable to straight guys.

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Anonymous #2 4d

Be so fucking for real right now, you cannot tell me that “You aren't on a safari, this isn't a field study. You aren't there to take surveys.” is NOT fucking condescending, when would you ever tell someone that in a normal fucking conversation? Also, “Maybe that’s why you don’t have straight guy friends” is both dismissive and condescending. I do have straight guy friends, I just said I would like to have more. You think you’re being direct but you’re just being patronizing.

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Anonymous OP 4d

Somehow I’m the one in the wrong for “taking offense” when you’re the one talking down at me for wanting to expand my friend group.

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Anonymous #3 4d

There isn’t a problem with the friends I have, can’t I want to have more friends?

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Anonymous OP 4d

Fair

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Anonymous OP 4d

Holy shit it is not even close to being that deep.

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Anonymous OP 4d

I was trying to point out how ridiculous your mindset is. The fact that you even consider the sexuality demographics of the people you’re friends with is fucking wild to me.

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Anonymous OP 4d

I made friends with my best friend because he was chill and we got along great, not because I was looking for more gay friends

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Anonymous #2 3d

If it isn’t that deep then learn how to shut the fuck up 💀

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Anonymous #2 3d

You weren’t “pointing it out”, you were just being a patronizing asshole with a condescending ass tone. Wanting to have more straight male friends isn’t ridiculous, it’s called being self-aware. I’m acknowledging a social-gap in my life and wanting to broaden my circle. It’s something a lot of people do, because believe it or not, people tend to befriend others similar to them, which is exactly why it’s important to branch out.

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Anonymous OP 3d

Of course a straight man is trying to tell me that noticing other people’s demographics is ridiculous. It’s easy to say when you’ve never had to think about it. Queer people struggle just to exist, to feel safe and understood in spaces that weren’t built with us in mind, so we HAVE to be aware. Being aware of that isn’t ridiculous, it’s self-awareness. It’s knowing the reality of the world we live in.

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Anonymous #2 3d

I honestly don’t give a fuck how you made friends with a singular gay guy. Obviously people make friends with others because they like them because that’s how friendship works. But what’s the reason people want friends in the first place? BECAUSE THEY WANT MORE FRIENDS AND MORE PEOPEL TO CONNECT WITH.

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