Anonymous #1 3w

But like there’s a stark difference between being creepy and not?

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Anonymous OP 3w

No, it’s hard to find the line and what may not be creepy to some will be to others. Plus most of us don’t know how

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Anonymous #2 3w

I think it’s a skill set. Most girls want to be flirty with guys but they act strangely now. What’s creepy to you?

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Anonymous OP 3w

It’s a skill set that can’t be developed because of the risk…

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Anonymous OP 3w

I’m overall just a bit socially awkward so I have trouble communicating with anyone new especially women cause I don’t wanna come off as weird so I just stay quiet unless spoken to first

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Anonymous #1 3w

You say the two options are “creepy or don’t say anything” and “guys act so creepy now” so many people see that and opt out of flirting

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Anonymous #1 3w

Yes it can. There’s not a risk. Girls are risking more yet we still want that interaction

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Anonymous #2 3w

Honesty I am too but I said fuck it and do it anyways

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Anonymous #1 3w

I didn’t say that?

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Anonymous OP 3w

I try but it’s hard to tell what’s flirting and just someone being nice and so the safest option for me unless it’s super clear is to assume they’re just friendly

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Anonymous OP 3w

To say there is not a risk just isn’t too lol but ok, to your second point the second quote should be strange not creepy but you did say both of those….

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Anonymous #1 3w

Yeah? When they stare at me instead of flirting that’s weirder to us tbh. It makes us uncomfortable more so than just talking to us. Or I only get catcalled which ofc is worse

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Anonymous #2 3w

You could always ask?

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Anonymous #1 3w

*true

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Anonymous OP 3w

Well that’s how society is now lol, antisocial behavior has been bred through people because of many factors, people don’t talk to strangers anymore unless the find clear and visible signals, which is what they may be looking for

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Anonymous #1 3w

Yeah I’m not doing that lol I want to be more social

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Anonymous OP 3w

That’ll be just as awkward then if they arent

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Anonymous OP 3w

That’s fine do what u want lol, but also recognized the collective male experience

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Anonymous #2 3w

Honestly it’ll be awkward either way…if you ask I doubt you’ll see them again

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Anonymous #1 3w

It won’t lead to anywhere 🤷🏽‍♀️ it’s side stepping the problem

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Anonymous OP 3w

I’d rather just act friendly in return and cope with having missed someone being interested rather than come off as weird if they weren’t

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Anonymous OP 3w

I mean it’s really a problem for u tho? The individuals may not be having that, or they may. But it’s pretty clear the social shifts have made it more inappropriate/risky/unknown to flirt, often because they never were able to safely get the experience in how

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Anonymous #2 3w

Lowk same, it’s easier to get over 95% of the time, and they rarely were interested anyways lolll

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Anonymous #1 3w

What problem?

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Anonymous OP 3w

The problem that you are frustrated by lack of flirting

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Anonymous #1 3w

Yeah honestly well idk. I’d rather have a confident guy

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Anonymous OP 3w

I mean sure do what u want u just need to be content with waiting possibly years and years, as I am trying to be content with now because I want someone to fit my standards/wants

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Anonymous #1 3w

lol yeah no

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Anonymous OP 3w

No? That really wasn’t a request like that’s just how it works…. Especially if u don’t flirt first (if that’s the case)

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Anonymous #1 3w

I doubt it’ll take years

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Anonymous #3 3w

Yeah sure. I’d rather someone try tbh. No better time. Also, I’m out of college

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Anonymous OP 3w

What would “trying” look like to you?

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Anonymous #3 3w

Just come up and say hey I think you’re beautiful I’d like to talk to you more can I give you my number?

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Anonymous OP 3w

Tbh, that comes off a bit too forward for something I’d ever attempt. How would you respond if he was someone you weren’t interested in?

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Anonymous OP 3w

I mean guys would love to receive that too but that type of stuff never has really happened much lol. Most people meet not just like in cold approaches…

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Anonymous #1 3w

Every good relationship I’ve had with a women occurred because she approached me first. I’ve only approached another women once, and it was only after she made it pretty clear I was her type. These women mostly cold approached me

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Anonymous #3 3w

Does it? That’s perfectly normal. It’s better to be upfront bc Soemtimes idk know id guys r flirting or not. I woudl just say no thank you

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Anonymous #1 3w

So how?

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Anonymous #3 3w

So if you approached them it didn’t turn out well?

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Anonymous OP 3w

Through friends, through hobbies, dating apps now. Cold approaches are usually just creepy pickup artist stuff and usually makes people’s confidence lower cause of how rare it works lol

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Anonymous #1 3w

It’s not tho? My friends don’t have guy friends, I don’t live in an area where I can do a lot of my hobbies and dating apps are weirder. So what now?

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Anonymous OP 3w

Then you wait or change something! Only you can control your actions lol

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Anonymous #1 3w

It’s not my actions it’s also the guys, lol

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Anonymous OP 3w

My confidence is shaky at best, which is surprisingly better than most men my age. But I know rejection is something that lingers with me for a long time. So I just have initiated anything in recent years. But, the women who showed interest have been positive for many years of my life

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Anonymous OP 3w

Well yes but u can’t control them so if u want results u need to change something or wait….

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Anonymous OP 3w

I’m moving to go where there’s mores guys and hi aren’t as shy

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Anonymous OP 3w

If you want the interaction then you can start the interaction

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Anonymous #1 3w

Change what? Lol

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Anonymous OP 3w

New hobby, or go places with friends to meet people and go talk to people to see who u click with, become a regular somewhere,

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Anonymous #1 3w

That’s what I’m doing lol. Also going to more events in a bigger city. My city has shy guys I guess and I don’t like that

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Anonymous OP 3w

Is shy someone that doesn’t make the first move? Or someone that is actually shy… many not shy people don’t make the first move lol. Either way it take lots of time and effort

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Anonymous OP 3w

If you’re pretty much opposed to initiating, you need to focus your skillset on making yourself more approachable.

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Anonymous #3 3w

I’m shy. I like the guy to approach. I’m pretty and black, so that doesn’t help anything. But I can’t change that

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Anonymous OP 3w

Expecting someone to do something you won’t do yourself is a great way to be dissapointed 😭gl

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Anonymous #1 3w

I never said I wouldn’t lol. It’s happened before 🤷🏽‍♀️

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