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I’m so awkward with physical touch on dates that I can’t get past anything more than a quick hug. How did you guys learn or did you just know what to do?
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Anonymous 11w

Just be direct and ask her what she’s comfortable with. A woman that has an issue with that likely isn’t going to make a good partner anyways

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Anonymous 11w

Trial and error. It comes down to reading the room and calibrating to how she feels. Girls dont have to verbally tell you how they feel bc their body language already conveys it. Confidence also goes a long way, if you’re half assing things she might find it endearing, but for how long. Whatever you feel, she feels. Physical touch is how you communicate, test, flirt, escalate

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Anonymous 11w

I haven’t got it past either I have gone on 3 dates with a girl and haven’t kissed before

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Anonymous 11w

ngl i would send what i saw in movies/tv shows when i was starting out, and it worked pretty well besides some initial awkwardness

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Anonymous 11w

Bro just push the boundaries until she says something and if ur somewhere egregious ask for consent when you’re doing it. I.e do shoulder touch’s or hand touches , play with her hands to get her body used to you, then play fully hold her close to you, then feel her back etc. work ur way to her hair and when you’re in more intimate spaces, thighs , hips, etc . Just be cool and remember yesses and no’s

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Anonymous replying to -> loverboy 11w

You should also ask for consent/yes for non-sexual things at the start

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 11w

But isn’t that hard to bring up casually?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Sure it’s more difficult than letting things be. It takes effort, but so do most things in life worth doing

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Anonymous replying to -> beestboy 11w

But how do you do this without being nervous or getting rejected. Like kissing a girl is so hard to do I’ve been on 3 dates before and not kissed her

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