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how come i never have guy friends? the only guys that ever talk to me are the ones that are interested in me, and they just happen to approach every girl. even if i do speak first and we get along, it never develops into a friendship. i’ve seen other
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Anonymous 1w

girls who i friends with guys so ik it’s possible, but most days i only interact with women. even if my girl friends bring their guy friends to hang out as a group, it’s like they avoid me. i love my girl friends and i’m not specifically looking to have guy friends but it feels isolating at times. like i can’t connect with half the population

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Anonymous 1w

Most people unfortunately don't see the opposite sex as genuine friend material. I think it's more to do with culture than individuals. Even men who keep platonic female company tend to be hesitant about befriending new women because they might be worried about their attempts at friendship being perceived a certain way. Also some men don't befriend women they don't find attractive, even if they don't plan to make a move. There's a hundred reasons to explain why you don't have guy friends tbh

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Anonymous 1w

The only male friends I’ve had I’ve met because we worked together or had class together. I’ve never had a man just make an effort to be my friend, unless ofc he was interested in me sexually/romantically🫩

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Anonymous 1w

I have mostly girl friends as a guy. I feel ur pain tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Most men don’t make effort to be friends with other men, let alone women. Not really ur fault unfortunately

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

So like some of these men are lonely because they don’t put in effort to make friends? Makes sense

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I mean they do put effort then it’s unreciprocated then they just stop cause why put tons of effort for nothing

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Not to mention differences in hobbies, socialization styles, locations you hang out, etc. Age also plays a factor. My parents/aunts and uncles have more opposite sex friends than my peers, I think. Though that could also be because a lot of older adults are married.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

the thing is i do have a lot of hobbies that men have, so it’s not like we lack common interests. in fact, a lot of the time im in make dominated spaces and cant connect with my peers. i guess i cant do much about whether or not men want to be friends with women, but its still an isolating feeling yk.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

i have the same experience but the other way around. if i try to befriend men i find myself being the one to initiate everything. like if i don’t speak to them first we’d just never speak again

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

That’s what I am saying. Now sure what you mean other way around

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

The couple times I’ve had men put effort in and initiate stuff, he stops after he gets a gf🫩

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Unfortunately real for women too, my girl friends often leave me behind when they get a gf or bf 😔

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