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I hate being a lover girl. Any advice on not being someone that yearns? I always cherish the good memories of my exes, I keep a part of them w me, but it seems I never existed to them. I'm just scared to date someone new and the cycle repeats
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Anonymous 4d

Oh I do the same thing as a man. Idk man

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Anonymous 3d

find someone who values you for you, then you’ll be able to yearn freely and they’ll yearn for you back :)

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Anonymous 4d

Where I date the new guy, I give him the world, he breaks up w me, and then I'm STUCK on him for 3-4 years and am single by choice until I'm ready to date again

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Anonymous 3d

Just don't yearn

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

You and me both 🤧😓

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

I think what I have started to do is make a big list I want in a partner. And to kinda not get attached until they kinda fit that list (maybe not fully but like yk) similar to what the girl did 2 posts down

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

Honestly you might be on to something here. I should do this too. It's like a form of self-love ig, like what it is that we deserve in a partner

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

Yea it helped me get over someone I was in love with for months and months and she wouldn’t even give me the time of day. Like I deserve communication or whatever. Typically it’s nonphysical things but more actions and how they make you feel

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

Cause physical attraction is just person to person tbh

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4d

Very true

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

i agree. there's certain qualities i need to have in a partner to have a decent relationship. also it would help to categorize qualities based on negotiables and non-negotiables

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