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Ask Men 23h
Why was I not enough for him? I tried to do everything and be everything for him. He told me I was the best thing in his life. Why did he just give up on me like that? Why did he make empty promises if he didn’t mean them?
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Anonymous 21h

He just missed out, and you just got saved of having to be with a douche who didn’t really care about you. Never, EVER use relationships to judge your own self worth. Ever. They are trial runs and sometimes they may not always work out. Take some time to realize this, take a break from dating for a bit and live life. And if someone treats you like that again, then just drop them like a sack of potatoes Signed, a guy that spent far too long judging himself for not having a relationship

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Anonymous 22h

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm going through potentially losing someone right now and know that can really hurt. I am unsure why he did that to you but for now, let yourself feel your sadness and disappointment and give yourself the time to feel these things because repressing our feelings isn't good, and it's also understandable you're feeling this way Here for you if you wanna talk, sorry again this is going on

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Anonymous 19h

You can put ever you have on the table but at the end of the day sometimes they just don’t like or want it and it hurts but that doesn’t mean you did something wrong

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Anonymous 14h

I don’t know shit about romance, but I feel like more context may be needed here.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

This is something I'm struggling with right now so just wanted to say thank you for commenting this. I know this is not meant for me but still wanted to say I appreciate it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

Glad I could help

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12h

But like he did like it? Which is what’s so confusing to me. Like he told me we could make it through anything. He saw a future with me. Talked about moving with me. How I made him so happy and how I was good for him. Like what exactly changes there? Why say those things and then be the one to give up?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

For me it’s like less about him. I’m more trying to process the relationship and understand why things happened in the way they did. Like I’m trying to find answers for what happened and what changed in him I guess

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

I fully believe that I am so much better off without him. I look back at the relationship and the situation makes me sad. I still want the best for him and I really do wish him the best

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

He was technically my first real boyfriend so it makes me sad that this was my first experience. Especially because I put so much into it. He seemed like he really did care about me at points. But if it’s not all the time, then it’s not enough. I don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed for loving him or investing in the way that I did. I don’t think his actions, especially at the end, define my worth at all. His intentions and the way his actions changed are confusing to me

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

Trying to find a lot of answers and get more closure. Unfortunately I feel like this relationship is going to have a lasting impact on me and the way I interact with guys in the future. I was already nervous and afraid before, but this has just compounded it. There’s a lot of fear and sometimes I don’t know how to manage all of it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12h

Hey if it helps try listening to open hearts by the weekend

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

Why that one specifically?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11h

What you're saying makes sense, and I think all of those things can be true at the same time

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10h

It’s an interesting situation to be in. I’ve been asking people a lot of questions to try to understand it all better

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8h

Idk it helped me when I was in a similar situation, but honestly only time can heal these things

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6h

I’ll give you a song recommendation back. I feel like I’ve resonated with this one a lot Butterflies by Brent faiyaz

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