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y don't last names follow the matriarchal line? you would think the name of the child would be given to the person giving birth, since its easier to verify the birthing parent, is actually the childs biological parent. especially b4 dnas test like
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Anonymous 3w

Did you forget women weren’t allowed to have voices till recently in history? However I think in Japanese culture men join the wife’s clan but don’t @ me on that one

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Anonymous 3w

Easiest answer is to look at history and that will explain it to you.

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Anonymous 3w

Men are better

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Anonymous 3w

For most of history that would defeat the purpose of a last name, since people introduced themselves as “X, son of Y” bc parent Y is the one whose status determines yours. Also, I think fidelity on was the norm for women until very recently so the whole “well the dad could be anyone” problem is more a modern one and would utterly dumbfound people throughout most of history. Reinventing the whole system to accommodate for women’s’ infidelity would be really embarrassing to whoever suggested it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

i'm assuming the answer is probably sexism then. it's just really interesting to me since infidelity has been around for ages and how it used to be scandalous to get pregnant out of wedlock. i wonder how many people lived and died having the name of a man that wasn't their father.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

they aren't the ones giving birth

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

yeah i know it's just interesting that women physically are the ones who continue the birthline not men so its weird the name comes from the man

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Idk why yal think that. Yall need make genetic material to even start a pregnancy. Not to mention a babies gender is determined by a man’s sperm. If just because women birthed the baby is all you think should be the reason a family should take the woman’s name then do more thinking

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Well before DNA test there wasn't a sure way to determine who the father was. However it's always obvious who the mother is. You truly believe even back then every mother was honest about the people they had sex with?? I mean like kings historically had sex with a harlots and would have bastard children. It be a lot easier for them to deny that the child is theirs if they took their mothers name.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

also yeah you do need the genectic material from the man but aside from that the pregnancy and delivery is entirely dependent on the women. the man just like needs to have an orgasm. he technically doesn't even need to be there for the birth of the child and many men aren't. so that's why i think more women view the birthing process less than 50/50. haven't you heard the saying women become moms when they get pregnant but men become fathers once the baby is born?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

and like again i don't blame them bc how can they know the baby is theirs? it's why now when men ask for DNA tests i think that's valid.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Or maybe, what Im telling you is to research the reason why in history. What we consider sexism today was more than likely not considered sexism in that age of history.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

what? why would that not still be sexism tho?thats like saying "Oh slavery might be considered bad today but it was normal in that age of history" like it's still bad lol. Just bc something was normalized or socially acceptable doesn't mean it's was right

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

lots of men consider the draft to be sexist even though it hasn't happened in over 50 years and was more than likey not considered sexist at the time. that doesn't change the fact tho that it was sexist then and still sexist now.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Now you're getting it. Continue to research and google that will answer a lot of your questions

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