Ask Men on Sidechat | i get that guys don’t like bigger girls but do they have to be so mean about it? i’m tired of being treated less than because of how i look

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Ask Men 13w

i get that guys don’t like bigger girls but do they have to be so mean about it? i’m tired of being treated less than because of how i look

Anonymous 13w

the real answer is most men don’t have respect or really any care at all for women they don’t deem attractive. you could walk around the question and bring up historical preferences and current western ideologies but the answer is that simple. i don’t agree with it but that’s how things are

Anonymous 13w

Often I find it’s a trauma response from men and women being mean to them about their characteristics

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Anonymous 13w

I used to be fat and now fat people make me disgusted and repulsed when they show skin. Also from mine and lots of men’s experience fat women are “the fridge protecting the snacks.” And are the ppl who most commonly get offended easily. So to put it franky, y’all are not fun to look at and ur not fun to be around 💀

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Anonymous

#1 13w

i feel like i’m always so nice to guys, i don’t understand why they have to act like my feelings don’t matter

Anonymous

OP 13w

I don’t think it’s inherently personal, but it is very mean. Unfortunately mean ppl are around

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Anonymous

#1 13w

yeah ig so. i’m just really upset abt it bc it just happened lol

Anonymous

OP 13w

Im sorry :( try to remind urself it’s just comments and in reality u are great

Anonymous 13w

Well what am I supposed to do huh? Change my brain or just lie and give bullshit answers??

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Anonymous 13w

There really isn’t an empathetic way to say it tho. There is no way I can reword “fat people gross me out” without changing it entirely. OP asked why are men mean to fat women and as someone who does I went into good detail on why I and other men don’t respect them. But literally tell me 1 thing that’s good about being fat… nothing but there is a laundry list of cons which also affect those around them. So unless they are funny (which is quite the task for a group that always gets offended)…

Anonymous

#2 13w

It’s not worth being around them

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Anonymous

#2 13w

oh…im sorry you feel that way.

Anonymous

#2 13w

why not just leave me alone then? i don’t understand why they would initiate a conversation with me just to insult me?

Anonymous

OP 13w

I mean I personally do. While I can admit that I’m not a saint I’m not evil enough to insult you to ur face. So I couldn’t tell ya but I can give you the reason why I don’t like y’all

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Anonymous

#2 13w

You literally just did insult her to her face

Anonymous

#1 13w

No I mean irl Einstein. Irl it’s way more hurt full that behind a screen where u can turn it off anytime

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Anonymous

#2 13w

but what’s the point of saying anything mean at all? you think i don’t know how i look?

Anonymous

OP 13w

especially when i didn’t fucking ask

Anonymous

OP 13w

You did ask tho. Ur like why are men mean to fat ppl. And I don’t have a perfect answer on why they are mean but I do know why we don’t like yall

Anonymous

#2 13w

no i mean i don’t ask them to approach me with negative backhanded comments. like why is my experience bothering you that much

Anonymous

#5 13w

Idk about most men, yeah some but I think there are plenty of respectful guys out there too

Anonymous

#6 13w

And also I wouldn’t say that this is a specifically male issue, both guys and girls can tend to treat less attractive or heavier or shorter or etc guys and girls less nicely, but again I think that are more nice people than mean people