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Ask Men 6w

i get that guys don’t like bigger girls but do they have to be so mean about it? i’m tired of being treated less than because of how i look

Anonymous 6w

the real answer is most men don’t have respect or really any care at all for women they don’t deem attractive. you could walk around the question and bring up historical preferences and current western ideologies but the answer is that simple. i don’t agree with it but that’s how things are

Anonymous 6w

It’s inherent to human nature, but more specifically in the West. Western beauty standards have set a bar for eligible mates. Some men don’t see you as a mate so they won’t give you the same attention as they would to a supermodel. In other parts of the world, unaffected by the big media companies, bigger women are revered as goddesses. For most of human history, bigger women have been the beauty standards. If you ever look at cave paintings from the last Ice Age, neanderthals once prayed to a

Anonymous 6w

Often I find it’s a trauma response from men and women being mean to them about their characteristics

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Anonymous 6w

I used to be fat and now fat people make me disgusted and repulsed when they show skin. Also from mine and lots of men’s experience fat women are “the fridge protecting the snacks.” And are the ppl who most commonly get offended easily. So to put it franky, y’all are not fun to look at and ur not fun to be around 💀

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Anonymous

#1 6w

i feel like i’m always so nice to guys, i don’t understand why they have to act like my feelings don’t matter

Anonymous

OP 6w

I don’t think it’s inherently personal, but it is very mean. Unfortunately mean ppl are around

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Anonymous

#1 6w

yeah ig so. i’m just really upset abt it bc it just happened lol

Anonymous

OP 6w

Im sorry :( try to remind urself it’s just comments and in reality u are great

Anonymous

#2 6w

What the fuck is your issue?

Anonymous

milfhunters 6w

god that took the appearance of a bigger woman. In any case, it’s a matter of where you live. If you’re bigger but you’re healthy, that’s enough for some people. You’ll face difficulties because of what you look like (although, doesn’t everyone? Nod to all the -ism’s), but that’s nothing on you. You’re stronger than most already by talking about your experiences.

Anonymous

milfhunters 6w

Well what am I supposed to do huh? Change my brain or just lie and give bullshit answers??

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Anonymous

milfhunters 6w

If anyone’s wondering why bigger women in the past were the beauty standard it’s because they were more likely to produce live offspring given their wider hips. In recent times (anywhere from the ancient Egyptians to Greco Roman times), the idea of the “perfect” woman is created, a little smaller in size but not anorexic. We’ve only been going smaller from there

Anonymous

#2 6w

What you’re supposed to do is have basic human empathy for someone’s situation. I guess it’s lost on you, though. No one asked you to lie; OP wasn’t asking for your dating preferences. Instead, they were asking why people are mean about it. You can dislike something without going out of your way to be cruel. You can be honest *and* respectful.

Anonymous

milfhunters 6w

This is just laughably untrue, you do know that excluding oceanic islands with 50k ppl we have by far the highest obesity rate. No country of era has loved fat men and women more than current day America

Anonymous

#2 6w

Enjoy your day #2

Anonymous

milfhunters 6w

There really isn’t an empathetic way to say it tho. There is no way I can reword “fat people gross me out” without changing it entirely. OP asked why are men mean to fat women and as someone who does I went into good detail on why I and other men don’t respect them. But literally tell me 1 thing that’s good about being fat… nothing but there is a laundry list of cons which also affect those around them. So unless they are funny (which is quite the task for a group that always gets offended)…

Anonymous

#2 6w

It’s not worth being around them

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Anonymous

#2 6w

oh…im sorry you feel that way.

Anonymous

#2 6w

why not just leave me alone then? i don’t understand why they would initiate a conversation with me just to insult me?

Anonymous

OP 6w

I mean I personally do. While I can admit that I’m not a saint I’m not evil enough to insult you to ur face. So I couldn’t tell ya but I can give you the reason why I don’t like y’all

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Anonymous

#2 6w

You literally just did insult her to her face

Anonymous

#1 6w

No I mean irl Einstein. Irl it’s way more hurt full that behind a screen where u can turn it off anytime

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Anonymous

#2 6w

but what’s the point of saying anything mean at all? you think i don’t know how i look?

Anonymous

OP 6w

especially when i didn’t fucking ask

Anonymous

OP 6w

You did ask tho. Ur like why are men mean to fat ppl. And I don’t have a perfect answer on why they are mean but I do know why we don’t like yall

Anonymous

#2 6w

no i mean i don’t ask them to approach me with negative backhanded comments. like why is my experience bothering you that much

Anonymous

#5 6w

Idk about most men, yeah some but I think there are plenty of respectful guys out there too

Anonymous

#6 6w

And also I wouldn’t say that this is a specifically male issue, both guys and girls can tend to treat less attractive or heavier or shorter or etc guys and girls less nicely, but again I think that are more nice people than mean people