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how do i get over never having a girlfriend in my whole life?
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Anonymous 10w

Monasticism

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Anonymous 10w

talk to women

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Anonymous 10w

Well, the obvious thing to say is: get a girlfriend. The second most obvious thing is making you a suitable bachelor. Are you ugly? Are you in shape? Are you curating skills that would make you a good boyfriend? What benefits does a woman have by being with you? What do you bring to the table that she can’t get with any other dude?

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Anonymous 10w

By getting over whatever conditioning made you feel that your sense of self worth is tied to how many women you can woo in how little time, or to being in a relationship. Cuz frankly, this isn’t something that should be weighing on you (and many other people, for that matter), but it does while serving you ZERO purpose.

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Anonymous 10w

It’s all about how you carry urself and treat others. Unironically you can be a 4.5 out of 10 and push that to a solid 8 with nothing but changing how u act around girls

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

you say that like it’s easy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

bro what? if youre on a college campus you can just go up to any girl, give her a compliment on her outfit, and start a conversation. theres also apps you can download that are specifically meant for talking to women

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

You are way oversimplifying it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

conversations are always extremely awkward like i have no idea what to say

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

a great way to talk generally is to ask questions. if youre interested in someone you are generally gonna be curious anyways. also i am acknowledging there is a huge mental hurdle when it comes to approaching but u gotta rip that bandaid off sooner or later.

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Anonymous replying to -> milfhunters 10w

i mean i guess i’m a solid 4.5 and i’m decently athletic, but i don’t know what makes a good boyfriend

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

OK. Do you have any skills? Is your hair nice? Are you ambitious in life? Are you interesting?

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Anonymous replying to -> milfhunters 10w

Girls flock for a couple things. Firstly, and most importantly, you have to look nice. Or at least decent. It’s superficial but people make a lot of assumptions about you given only what you look like. Secondly, you need to be interesting. Nobody wants to date a loser (no disrespect)

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Anonymous replying to -> milfhunters 10w

people compliment me on my outfits all the time, and i feel like i’m pretty interesting, but people also just call me weird i’m involved in a fair amount of things, so i would say i’m ambitious and skilled

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

It is that easy. When your intent isn’t solely to date them.

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Anonymous replying to -> stanczyk 10w

Going monk mode rn

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Anonymous replying to -> inphochewated 10w

i don’t talk to women just to date them, but that doesn’t change anything

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 10w

i legit have no idea how i’m supposed to be acting around girls for that to happen tho

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Anonymous replying to -> inphochewated 10w

is wanting a relationship something people get conditioned into?

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