Ask Men on Sidechat | This girl I js met and went on a date with made a joke (I was cool with it since we were both joking and laughing together) but then she flinched and said “don’t hit me”And I just laughed it off but now that I’m thinking about it rn should I be concerned?

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Ask Men 23h

This girl I js met and went on a date with made a joke (I was cool with it since we were both joking and laughing together) but then she flinched and said “don’t hit me”And I just laughed it off but now that I’m thinking about it rn should I be concerned?

Anonymous 16h

Move on

Anonymous 23h

Did she laugh afterwards? Like did it seem like a joke? Or was she seriously afraid of being hit?

Anonymous 21h

What was the joke?

Anonymous 19h

She might have trauma so just keep that in mind moving forward

Anonymous 10h

Not enough context, what did she even flinch at?

Anonymous 22h

Time to bail

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Anonymous

#1 22h

She laughed but tbh idk if it was because I laughed 😭

Anonymous

#2 22h

I can save her

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Anonymous

OP 21h

Honestly I’d just ask next time and say you wanted to make sure you didn’t scare her

Anonymous

#4 18h

yeah she was prob in a dv relationship before or had a family member that was abusive. It’s probably too early for her to feel comfortable opening up about it but the best thing u can do is just be gentle and give her reasons to trust you. if u flat out say “ I would never hurt you” in response she may be like well that’s what he said too. just show her thru ur actions that she’s safe with you and over time she’ll feel it and trust you if you’re a good guy

Anonymous

#5 18h

if she made the joke she might have been with someone who could switch from calm to angry out of nowhere and hurt her, which could cause that kind of reaction