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When it comes to dating, I'm a very traditional woman in a traditional area. In my opinion, the few dollars that a man saves by splitting a bill/check isn't worth more than the respect/trust that he loses. I've never really understood why some guys do it?
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Anonymous 11w

If I take someone out and they are guzzling down 20-30 dollar cocktails I have no problem splitting the bill with them lol

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Anonymous 11w

🤦‍♂️ I was willing to hear you out, but reading your comments in here, I can tell you right now that you’re going to be very incompatible even with a lot of well meaning men. Good luck though 👍

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Anonymous 11w

I mean Im not traditional so

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Anonymous 11w

Traditional to the point that if we are splitting a bill I'd just assume we're friends or he's not serious about me. I've never picked up a bill on a date. If we're just meeting one another and we go for coffee or something small then maybe I have but I think only once.

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Anonymous 11w

I guess if I were a guy I just wouldn't take someone out to a place that I couldn't afford.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

So...? Please explain lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Idk I pay for every date but if she said this I would be so turned off i probably wouldnt think we are compatible

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

We should be wanting to impress and desire each other, as both people are the “prize”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

I never said anything about prizes so I'm kinda confused where that comes from. Of course both people should be interested and active in the relationship!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Then you paying for part would show interest to me too

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

Ohhh I see. I don't conflate $ and expressions of interest. A lot of guys have money and a lot of guys can spend their money on women but that doesn't mean that they're interested in the woman or in a real relationship with a woman.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

It seems you whole post is about how not spending money means no interest

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

I never said the word interest so I'm not sure where that came from but that's not what I mean! At all haha

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Like why live beyond your means ya know?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

As a woman that's totally fair bc then I would definitely feel like im being used for a free dinner by some girl lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

What if he really likes the woman but the woman wants to go somewhere fancy. Imo I think the person who asked the other out should pay the bill or the bill is split just on a first date. But ig since you’re “traditional” you wouldn’t ask anyone out anyways

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 11w

Thanks I suppose. I've had a lot of success and enjoyment with dating 🥳 again maybe it's just because guys where I'm from share the same outlook on finances and caring for women/partners and such

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 11w

Then he or both of them can save up and go when they can afford it..? Money should never be an issue imo like don't go broke trying to go out somewhere you can't afford

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