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Ask Men 13h
can a man change if he was someone who lusted after other women online? like ACTUALLY change and not want to anymore?
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Anonymous 13h

Idk what your definition of “lusted after women online” really means. Could be anywhere from seeing someone attractive on ig and checking out their page (common among men and women) or a porn addiction. The distinction sorta matters but ultimately yes men can change like anyone else

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Anonymous 11h

My bf had a mild porn addiction as a younger teen and fully changed and by the time we got together, so if they put in the effort I think yes they can! How long and the severity matters to, some may need genuine therapy

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Anonymous 10h

Yes it’s definitely possible but it’s difficult and takes a while.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

i mean both

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

Yeah I mean in either case people can change ofc, men or not

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

is this speaking from experience

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

No just common sense. You asked if men can change and of course they can, no human condition is permanent. Will they change is a better question but that depends on a lot of info that wasn’t given in the question

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

i feel like this isn’t a normal thing to have to change. a guy that has a problem stopping both usually has some deep rooted issues and then biology + social media don’t help.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 13h

I think at some level it’s totally normal, which is why I said it’s such a big spectrum. Everyone lusts after people they’re attracted to, whether you see them on the street or on your screen. It’s just a normal part of getting into a relationship that you stop checking people out and perusing people based on attraction because you are instead devoted to your partner.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

If the person you’re speaking about has a porn addiction or is a stalker or something then that’s a different thing worth a different approach. Ultimately both are changeable, they’re just gonna require different levels of motivation to change

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