Anonymous #1 26w

Explain?

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Anonymous #3 26w

ok but like what’s your definition of yearning

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Anonymous #3 26w

Like is it constantly thinking about them and what it would be like to date them or is it mainly lustful like “need to hit that… anyways lemme swipe on tinder”

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Anonymous OP 26w

Thinking about her/him every single moment of the day, wanted to surprise and make them smile, checking our phone over and over again just to see if they’ve even seen our taxts, overthinking the works,

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Anonymous OP 26w

Intense wanting or longing for someone especially someone who you can’t have for whatever reason

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Anonymous #3 26w

You pull this straight out the dictionary or?

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Anonymous #5 26w

Yes a lot like this. Rereading every convo we’ve had, seeing where they’re at, checking their friends social medias to possibly see them too, writing these thoughts about them, etc

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Anonymous OP 26w

No, that’s what I define it as

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Anonymous orange_joyful_cat44 26w

Finally an honest answer

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Anonymous #8 26w

I don’t go after men

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Anonymous OP 26w

Then what experience do you have to say men don’t yearn 😂

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Anonymous OP 26w

Men don’t yearn for women anymore because the women that men would yearn for don’t exist anymore.

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Anonymous #8 26w

Yeah bc I’m sure 80% of the men at college has had his heart chewed up and spit out before 18 years old. Some guys don’t have to go through heart break to be a bad person, some people just are bad people. And unfortunately in this generation with the accessibility to porn and dating sites it’s easy for men to get their quick gratification

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Anonymous #9 26w

Because the men that yearn for them are not the men they want yearning for them

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Anonymous #8 26w

I meant like I don’t go after those kinds of guys you assumed I “go after the wrong guys” like no I’m very strict with my boundaries

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Anonymous #1 26w

What kind of women would you yearn for

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Yes and no bc Women don’t struggle as much with porn as men do and there’s been lots of studies that show the way it effects the male brain to view women as just objects

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Anonymous #1 26w

And before you say “nuh uhh women like that still exist”, yes, of course they do, just like men who yearn

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Anonymous #1 26w

No you’re good you can say what you feel

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Anonymous #1 26w

Yeah exactly ofc they’re exceptions but they’re hard to come by yk. Everyone in this comment section is an exception warrior like god forbid I speak on what I see.

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Anonymous #10 26w

Mam where are you finding men?? Like where has your experience come from?

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Anonymous #10 26w

Didnt mean to reply 😭

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Anonymous #5 26w

College campus

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Anonymous OP 26w

No but like where on campus

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Anonymous #10 26w

In general, like I have some 10/10 friends and men still just only lustful

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Anonymous OP 26w

Like in classes or at the gym or library

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Anonymous #5 26w

Outside (my school has a huge quad where people usually go) Dorm parties, and bars

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Anonymous #5 26w

Where you find a guy and what hes doing in the world has a lot to do with their character

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Anonymous OP 26w

OK, so you’re gonna complain about dudes being lustful when you meet them in general hangout spots dorm parties and bars???

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Anonymous #5 26w

Also like all of my guy friends are a huge reason why I think this way, like they’re great people I love them, but the way they go about hooking up with people is so saddening like where’s the love?????

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Anonymous #5 26w

Bro please, you can’t be serious. Those are the main places to socialize. I’m not gonna bother someone random in the library and I’m most likely not gonna find the love of my life in a class room where we can’t even talk and most people leave immediately once it’s over

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Anonymous #5 26w

Sure sometimes, but I go out from time to time that doesn’t mean I’m an alcoholic who just wants to fuck? So no I kinda disagree with where you are says everything about your character

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Anonymous OP 26w

All I’m trying to say is that location and activity are important, we can say all we want about young men and their habits

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Anonymous #5 26w

Also, if we’re supposed to be patient with people when there’s a hormone imbalance, can we be patient with men when they have high sex drives? It’s kind of the main thing testosterone does hell women in bodybuilding competitions who take testosterone have astronomically higher sex drives when they’re on testosterone.

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Anonymous #5 26w

Seeing a pattern of people being lustful doesn’t mean they’re incapable of love, lets stop dehumanizing people

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Anonymous #5 26w

Huh? What are you taking about “If we’re supposed to be patient with people when there’s a hormone imbalance” where’s this coming from

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Anonymous #5 26w

Are you refering to periods? Bc a women’s period is not controllable, a man’s lust.. is.

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Anonymous #5 26w

Never said they were incapable

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Anonymous #5 26w

It’s just easier for them to not have feeling and fuck whoever they can. Not that they can’t love, they just don’t care to

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Anonymous #5 26w

Selfish creatures

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Anonymous OP 26w

If we’re talking about hormones, impacting external behaviors, then yes, testosterone causes everybody to be more provocative, just like how somebody on their period can control their mood. It’s difficult so if you go to a bar where there’s a bunch of young men who are likely under the influence, then it’s easy to see that person as nothing but lustful when there is a deeper human underneath, and you saw them in one context

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Anonymous OP 26w

By the way, I am sorry if men have been hurtful or disgusting to you that’s excusable, but even monsters are terrible People are still people.

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Anonymous #5 26w

“If we’re talking about hormones” bro we’re not talking about hormones. You seem to want to talk about hormones tho. I don’t. You’ve lost the plot and made this conversation way more draining than it needs to be. Simple wish men yearned post and expected comments like “no we do *insert their cute stories to give me hope* not a fucking gender hormone war

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Anonymous #5 26w

People still people yeah yeah alright ok

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Anonymous #12 26w

I hope someone matches your yearn king 🤞

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Anonymous #12 26w

Based - I’ve done it and it fuckin’ hurts and I can’t just will myself into that again

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Anonymous OP 26w

😂 we had that but you were contrary anyways, sorry for being difficult

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Anonymous #10 26w

It’s ok to let your heart feel something😞✊

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Anonymous OP 26w

I am not consciously choosing to not yearn, I am simply experienced (jaded) enough that no woman I know inspires it in me

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Anonymous #5 26w

I was contrary to the girl that replied speaking for men bc I wanted a males response in ask men. And then the others were not giving examples and when I asked for examples it turned into something way different

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Anonymous #10 26w

You can’t choose to feel or not feel about something. I’d argue that the way I feel about the women I know has more to do with them than me

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Anonymous OP 26w

I used to yearn for my old girlfriend, driving and hour a day to see her and shiit, but yk i went to training and shit happens so idk

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Anonymous #10 26w

Fair enough, I hope you find someone who inspires you again

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Anonymous OP 26w

I appreciate you, I hope you inspire someone

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Anonymous #14 26w

☝️

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Anonymous #14 26w

Alright I’m logging off

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Anonymous #5 26w

Yall do too much l

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Anonymous ireallylikepancakes 26w

Btw I think we go to the same school

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Anonymous #21 26w

I just realized the assault charge sounds so messed up without explanation. There was a dude in highschool who groped her and it didn’t sit well with me so I ended up with 4th degree assault and assault with a deadly weapon but she said I over reacted and it wasn’t that big of a deal, idc what she says tho, I don’t regret it.

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Anonymous #21 26w

As you should, anyone who does that shit deserves a beating.

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Anonymous #1 26w

Accurate!

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Anonymous #26 26w

This is such a valid and healthy statement idk why you got downvoted

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Anonymous sea_taco 26w

Lmao go dawgs

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Anonymous ireallylikepancakes 26w

Yep this is crazy

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Anonymous #16 26w

I ain’t even notice

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Anonymous #16 26w

People jus haters tho

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Anonymous #25 26w

Valid

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Anonymous OP 26w

Why do you have such an insanely negative view of men and seem surprised to hear that men can indeed feel deep emotion outside of lust? Jfc

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Anonymous #34 26w

because of men, how they treat women, and how they treat each other! hope this helps

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