
Did he say he wasn’t going to get attached? Some people are looking for just the intimacy, it’s hard for me to separate intimate behavior from passionate and intimate sex, because that’s the sex I want, that’s the kind of physicality I want, and that’s the kind of connection I want. I also explicitly say, multiple times, that I’m not going to get attached, but I’ll still whisper into her ear that she’s beautiful and mean it while I’m holding her from behind.
I’m a people pleaser, it’s an issue, but I let people know that what turns me on is pleasing, I’m not going to lie through omission, I’ll spell it out, because I think transparency is important, but just because I treasure an experience, that doesn’t equate to her seeing me in her future, I’m being transparent, but if someone is willing to lie to themselves, that’s a problem for later.