Ask Men on Sidechat | How do yall get over retroactive jealousy?😭. I negativity obsess over the fact that my gf had a f buddy thing a year before she met me and I struggle to get over it,given that I have been in similar relationships in the past and have been with more ppl

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How do yall get over retroactive jealousy?😭. I negativity obsess over the fact that my gf had a f buddy thing a year before she met me and I struggle to get over it,given that I have been in similar relationships in the past and have been with more ppl

Anonymous 2w

Why are u jealous

Anonymous 2w

you neee to work on your insecurities

Anonymous 2w

I think you understand that it was a sexual relationship strictly about pleasure, because you too have experienced that before. However this person loves you and wants to be in a relationship with you, maybe you just want to know you can please her the same way? I’m sure you both can ignite that same excitement and pleasure that comes from meaningless hookups in your relationship together.

Anonymous 2w

i don't really get jealous about stuff like that but i'm not a guy lol. just think that if she knew you it probably wouldn't have happened! everything leads to new experiences and her case that experience led to you! also its in the past and she probably regrets it but we all regret things we've done. for me at least every experience led me to my now bf so honestly that's how you could think of it

Anonymous

#1 2w

Idk, I just have a hard time swallowing the fact that she had a purely sexual relationship with someone in the past. Like I think I would have gotten over it if it was a romantic partner. Idk what the jealousy stems from really. But it triggers sometimes when me and my gf do something romantic/sexual.

Anonymous

#2 2w

That’s helpful, thanks

Anonymous

OP 2w

i’ve been through this and i promise once you realize you don’t have to be insecure ab anything before or after you live is great lol!

Anonymous

#2 2w

How do you just “realize” it? Did you go to therapy or something ?

Anonymous

OP 2w

i was the gf in this scenario but i still have some insecurities when it comes to dating and literally you have to realize that you can’t stress over the thing you cannot control. it’s impossible to. also she picked you! that should be enough yk? but just try your best to gain a better mindset and i promise your relationship will get better. and it’s something that happened a year ago and not a month ago so it’s definitely possible to move on.