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what is a..tender yet dominant man? like how does that differ from normal dominance? or is the norm of normal dominance fucked up?
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Anonymous 5w

You mean like a soft dom?

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Anonymous 5w

i feel like normal dominance is just taking charge in the dynamic, but the "soft dom" is still in charge, while being very caring about the "submissive" person in the relationship/dynamic. it's kind of like how (good) parents guide their kids and discipline them while still showing love and gentleness. i feel like in relationships, it often entails a mixed salad of passion, care, respect and some leadership/authority. this was a confusing question so hopefully this answers it 😭

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Anonymous 5w

Could you clarify the negative tendencies for normal dominance? It’d help in being able to give a reply! :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

ohmygod..yes?? that’s the term

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

i just meant like..i don’t like men who are just super aggressive, mean, inconsiderate..think you’re supposed to just bow to them or else. i rlly was just trying to see if there was a different way to be dominant but without the negative tendencies- or if negative was the only way

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

those men are lowkey just abusive. Normal, healthy dominance IS soft domming

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

i did^ aggression, yelling, wanting to control, being inconsiderate and only wanting what YOU want, degrading, possession, etc

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

i feel like that's narcissistic/insecure dominance. healthy dominance looks a lot different

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