Anonymous #1 1w

Guys are catching on to that and most people left on dating apps just do it to kill time (men and women)

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Anonymous #1 1w

you can keep that energy all to yourselves & probably should get off the apps ✌️

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Anonymous OP 1w

I’m not on dating apps

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Anonymous #1 1w

never said it was specifically about you, using the plural general you for you & people like you

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Anonymous OP 1w

I mean are you sending messages? If not why couldn’t the same be said about you?

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Anonymous #1 1w

i do! but on hinge, you receive likes separate from the ones you send out & they are not the same people i’m sending comments to

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Anonymous OP 1w

Then I guess u do u I don’t see what the issue is lol

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Anonymous #1 1w

The issue is I used to like getting comments actually making jokes, conversation, etc. instead of likes on photos which are boring, kill the opportunity for connection, communication, etc.

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Anonymous #1 1w

I don’t match w men who just send likes because it means they have nothing they want to say to me

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Anonymous OP 1w

Sounds like a win on both sides then?

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Anonymous #1 1w

Not a match = less time wasted

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Anonymous #1 1w

how is that a win when it kills what could otherwise be an opportunity for connection because people have been encouraged to be lazy. idk, i don’t agree w ur outlook on dating, peace.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I’m not on dating apps, just saying the point of dating apps is to find ur match, if that is a filter for you then it makes it easier to find people who are your match

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Anonymous #1 1w

i’ve never said u were??? i’m just saying its a lot of people engaging in lazy ass behavior. it’s frustrating. there’s not infinite people in the city. it’s a generational failure that people have been told the way to date is by being as detached as possible. sure its a filter, but i want to see the best in people. sad to see that’s not the case anymore.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I was saying that because that isn’t my outlook on dating, it is what dating apps are, they burn people out quickly and make them detach because it’s the only real way to cope with hundreds upon hundreds of rejections. Humans imo were not meant to endure that. But that’s another tangent

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Anonymous oranguru 1w

you could send sarcastic comments? 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous #1 1w

when more people meet online than offline atp, it’s not just a dating app problem—it’s a dating problem. it’s bled out into everyone’s attitudes.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I do actually like to send funny messages to start off

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Anonymous OP 1w

The dating apps are a dating problem though.

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Anonymous pirosnake 1w

Last year I went on dates w/ 3 different people mainly during October. I just redownloaded yesterday.

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Anonymous OP 1w

How many comments have you received with likes?

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Anonymous pirosnake 1w

yesterday? like 3/15

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Anonymous OP 1w

15 likes in one day is crazy

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Anonymous #4 1w

Ikr that’s so good

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Anonymous #5 1w

i put effort into myself & my profile, it’s why i’d kinda like if people could do the same 🤷‍♀️ but oh well

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Anonymous OP 1w

I do or at least think I do 😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

I’ve asked a ton of people for feedback on my profile and I still get about a like per month

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Anonymous OP 1w

So 3 guys gave you comments with your likes. Assuming thats an average amount, that gives a guy a chance of 1/365 of getting date if he gives you a comment (assuming all the guys you dated gave a comment with their like).

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Anonymous pirosnake 1w

not sure the math on that, also have to account for the ones i made the first move for, but anyway lmao

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Anonymous #5 1w

That’s because of the population on dating apps. https://youtu.be/x3lypVnJ0HM?si=uIZiELfuWxrUoiVh

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Anonymous OP 1w

It sounds like giving a comment with a like isn’t getting men all that far.

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Anonymous pirosnake 1w

applying to a job without a resume won’t get you a job ever. but the resume doesn’t get you a job… the content of the resume does. i fear it’s common sense that commenting doesn’t correlate to dates, it’s just that not commenting is disqualifying.

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Anonymous OP 1w

But do you understand how hard it is to make interesting and engaging comments to add without burning out?

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Anonymous OP 1w

You must live in a very populated area. I am apparently a guy that gets more likes than most and even in my area (which isn’t small by any means, but also isn’t massive), I might get a couple of likes in a week on hinge

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Anonymous #5 1w

And to add onto that when most likes or comments don’t get responded to

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Anonymous #5 1w

If you’re “burned out” take a break. That’s what I do. I don’t half ass anything I actually care about with anyone I think I might like. If you care about something… make an effort. If you can’t do that, rest. That’s my philosophy. Note how I went on dates in OCTOBER, it didn’t work, i took a break for a few months & came back because I wasn’t gonna half ass people because I was tired. My profile isn’t hard to engage with—people are lazy.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Imagine if you used this reasoning with like… parenting. “Well I was so burnt out all day from my kids so I just stopped trying & started to neglect them” Instead of being like, wow I’m feeling really tired I should probably address this problem within myself instead of sacrificing something really important to me & harming my kids.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Yeah but we aren’t talking about something that harms someone, me not sending a comment to a dry ass profile doesn’t equate to someone harming their child

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Anonymous #5 1w

Assuming my profile is dry based on nothing just to try & make a point about how you don’t need to make an effort about something you presumably care about (finding a life partner) is interesting.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Oh ok you’re just baiting for arguments, sorry have fun

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Anonymous #5 1w

Because that’s what it is—being lazy about something you care about. No one is forcing you to be on apps, which is why I commended #1 for getting off of them! If it’s not working & ur burnt out, stop! Wasting everyone’s time that so many people have given up entirely but still use them just because.

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Anonymous #5 1w

Not baiting for arguments, just saying a) my profile isn’t dry and b) if you care about something you should probably try to put your best foot forward. those are my personal values, i don’t half ass shit I voluntarily choose to do.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I guess we just have different views, since our experience on dating apps are different.

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