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im so lonely. just want to meet the right guy. im involved at church, hobbies, focused on career, gym, but so far the guys ive met are lustful. i just want to meet one who loves me. where can i find one like this?
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Anonymous 8w

What’s wrong with them church boys, surely they share your values

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Anonymous 8w

church or Church?

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Anonymous 8w

OP, id see if your church has a dedicated thing for singles, like monthly?

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Anonymous 8w

Well if you’re not willing to take the initiative, I’m afraid you can’t complain about not being able to find anyone

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Anonymous 8w

I’m not Christian but I’m sure I’ve seen ads or promos for christian dating apps Maybe you could try those? I understand wanting a “traditional” approach but times are changing and you have to adapt, who’s to say some Christian guys aren’t also scared to approach in fear of lustful/fake Christian girls.

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Anonymous 8w

How many guys have you asked on a date? One thing to keep in mind is that women are extremely attracted to narcissists in the short term, so maybe consider if some of the guys you looked over have good qualities.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

oh i would love to date one! i just haven't met one to ask me on a date

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

im very traditional when it comes to dating. i don't chase after a man. i make myself open and inviting, but if he's interested i allow him to pursue. so far though, ive only encountered men that. profess to be christian but i find out that they are lustful and only want one thing, pretending to be christian

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

Hm how exactly do you interpret lust. Physicality will always be a driver to some degree. On the other side of the coin, you have women who feign being Christian that skew the perception of some of these men you encounter, you can thank them for making men not wanting to wait

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

i get it, i get the frustration. both genders have bad apples, but both also have pure fruits of the spirit. they are just very hard to find. by "lust" i mean that a guy will be a gentleman and kind to me until he starts trying to "sext" me or send me inappropriate images that repulse me and make me block him. not talking ab the natural awe from a man to a woman's beauty and grace

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

Truthfully that’s just a weirdo and most likely a result from scarcity. These types of men are common bc they simply dont know better. It’s the strategy of a starving man who’s deserted. men who are deemed attractive and desirable can navigate their lustful nature properly without being overbearing or without putting pressure on the situation; that’s abundance. But like you said, hard to find

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

very true. will keep praying 🙏 thank you for your kind words

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 8w

i do take the initiative. i put myself out there, i make friends with guys. but it's not wrong to have a traditional approach when it comes to dating. each person is allowed to have their own preferences. i respect women that prefer to make a first move, just as a woman who decides not to is just as deserving of that same respect

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

You do you. I’m just saying if you’re not willing to approach men yourself, you can be doing more

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