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Is it common for men to tell their girlfriends to fix things about their appearance or did I get a rare first (ex) boyfriend experience?

Anonymous 10w

chick here but i’ve dated many guys and never had a guy suggest anything like this. not normal not acceptable

Anonymous 10w

I would say it’s somewhat common. Girls generally like to try new things and sometimes men don’t like them. As a guy it’s pretty hard for women to do something that constitutes telling them my opinion about it, but when I do, I try to be respectful about it. It’s all about how the mentioning of your appearance is handled rather than the action itself

Anonymous 10w

I’ve never had one so idk

Anonymous

#1 10w

I should add more context. He was suggesting things that would require surgery, money, or becoming underweight. I feel like that's fucked up, and don't want to deal with that again

Anonymous

#2 10w

Thanks boss

Anonymous

OP 10w

Yes ma’am 🫡

Anonymous

OP 10w

That’s pretty awful 😭. Set your fricken boundaries and tell him how you feel about him saying those things. If he does it again, dump him. Real men don’t put down their partners

Anonymous

#1 10w

I already broke up with him and made sure to detail how horrible he is don't you worry. It's just very hard to not generalize that experience to every single other man in existence now lol

Anonymous

OP 10w

Good for you to break it off. I know it’s hard but there’s men out there that will respect you for who you are. Just be patient and have faith