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Ask Men 11w
i’m 21f. i really like this guy but he’s 28. do you think i have a chance? we’ve been texting, but he says i make him feel old and teases me for being young. every time i flirt, he just acts friendly back. he also lives far away. do i have any shot?
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Anonymous 11w

You’re only going to find college age dudes in this page. If he’s giving you signals to back off, back off. He also could just not want to flirt with someone so much younger. If you are really that into him, just be up front about how you feel. There’s a lot of stress on him to not appear as though he’s creeping on a young woman. Consider that.

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Anonymous 11w

I think the age gap is too much. It’s weird for a 28 year old to be attracted to someone who is 21, I would find someone closer to your age

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Anonymous 11w

Honestly. Nah girl. I would move on. You two are on WAYYY different stages of life. Damn near incompatible

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Anonymous 11w

It won’t be hurt to be friends but I can’t see anything romantically happening tbh. Both different stages in your life

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Anonymous 11w

You have a chance. The “making him feel old” thing is flirting. Even if he lives far away that generally doesn’t matter. If he’s got a decent job, doesn’t show a bunch of red flags, and seems pretty cool, go for it. Guys of that age group tend to already have most of things figured out that the 18-24 year old crowd is still struggling with.

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Anonymous 11w

Do you like him? Does he like you? if both are a yes then go for it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

Agreed!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

okay but imagine if it wasn’t weird and if i had a chance how would i work on it

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 11w

he’s very nice and chill, and he gets along great with my family. he has a real job and is very responsible and i personally just really like him a lot. the biggest obstacle is the age gap, but i’ve had a lot of life experiences that i think make me more mature than my age, and we get along really well. if it weren’t for the age gap, id say we’d be a really good couple

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

If your family didn’t sense any red flags, the only thing you’re calling an obstacle is something popularized by single tiktok women of his age group who were not even low-key jealous because a bunch of them dropped the ball with guys like him which is likely why you found him single at 28. Don’t get me wrong there’s still some predators of the age gap I’ve found, but that’s mostly rich old guys who are like 50+ trying to turn girls into sugar babies. If your aiming at eventually having a 1/

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 11w

2/2 having a family with him, then congrats and wish yall all the best. 👍🫶🫡

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

I mean my mom is ten years older than my dad and they met in college (my mom was a non traditional student) and they are still happily married

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Being yourself is all you can do

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