Ask Men on Sidechat | i’m 21f. i really like this guy but he’s 28. do you think i have a chance? we’ve been texting, but he says i make him feel old and teases me for being young. every time i flirt, he just acts friendly back. he also lives far away. do i have any shot?

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i’m 21f. i really like this guy but he’s 28. do you think i have a chance? we’ve been texting, but he says i make him feel old and teases me for being young. every time i flirt, he just acts friendly back. he also lives far away. do i have any shot?

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Anonymous 5w

You’re only going to find college age dudes in this page. If he’s giving you signals to back off, back off. He also could just not want to flirt with someone so much younger. If you are really that into him, just be up front about how you feel. There’s a lot of stress on him to not appear as though he’s creeping on a young woman. Consider that.

Anonymous 5w

I think the age gap is too much. It’s weird for a 28 year old to be attracted to someone who is 21, I would find someone closer to your age

Anonymous 5w

Honestly. Nah girl. I would move on. You two are on WAYYY different stages of life. Damn near incompatible

Anonymous 5w

Just because you’re comfortable with the age gap doesn’t mean he is necessarily. That’s a conversation you just gotta have. 7 years is a lot

Anonymous 5w

It won’t be hurt to be friends but I can’t see anything romantically happening tbh. Both different stages in your life

Anonymous 5w

You have a chance. The “making him feel old” thing is flirting. Even if he lives far away that generally doesn’t matter. If he’s got a decent job, doesn’t show a bunch of red flags, and seems pretty cool, go for it. Guys of that age group tend to already have most of things figured out that the 18-24 year old crowd is still struggling with.

Anonymous 5w

Do you like him? Does he like you? if both are a yes then go for it.

Anonymous

#2 5w

Agreed!

Anonymous

#2 5w

okay but imagine if it wasn’t weird and if i had a chance how would i work on it

Anonymous

#6 5w

he’s very nice and chill, and he gets along great with my family. he has a real job and is very responsible and i personally just really like him a lot. the biggest obstacle is the age gap, but i’ve had a lot of life experiences that i think make me more mature than my age, and we get along really well. if it weren’t for the age gap, id say we’d be a really good couple

Anonymous

OP 5w

If your family didn’t sense any red flags, the only thing you’re calling an obstacle is something popularized by single tiktok women of his age group who were not even low-key jealous because a bunch of them dropped the ball with guys like him which is likely why you found him single at 28. Don’t get me wrong there’s still some predators of the age gap I’ve found, but that’s mostly rich old guys who are like 50+ trying to turn girls into sugar babies. If your aiming at eventually having a 1/

Anonymous

#6 5w

2/2 having a family with him, then congrats and wish yall all the best. 👍🫶🫡

Anonymous

OP 5w

I mean my mom is ten years older than my dad and they met in college (my mom was a non traditional student) and they are still happily married

Anonymous

OP 5w

Being yourself is all you can do

Anonymous

#8 5w

7 years is not a lot 😭 it just feels like a lot now. nobody would bat an eye if we were 31 and 38 😭 besides! the rule is half of your age plus 7

Anonymous

OP 5w

7 years you were a 6th grader when he was graduating. This is not how i met your mother

Anonymous

#8 5w

okay but i’m literally not a 6th grader im actually 21 i can vote, drink, rent cars, have my own apartment and a college degree and ive had 7 jobs….i don’t get why people insist on infantilizing me as part of proving a point that there’s an age gap