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Why is it so hard for guys to just cuddle 😒😒 just because i lay on you or you spoon me doesn’t mean i wanna have sex just because i enjoy the nice rubs doesn’t mean sex do yall seriously not know how to genuinely cuddle is it all just for sex
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Anonymous 16w

Making sure u know boner ≠ want sex But I dream about cuddling so I assume I am not alone

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Anonymous 16w

No I do I just don't know any women

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Anonymous 16w

Cuddling is amazing I hate being groped when I’m trying to cuddle

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Anonymous 16w

Real!! I stopped talking to a guy cuz he wouldn’t stop this shit even when I directly told him I wasn’t in the mood. Pmo

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Anonymous 16w

But im sorry they do that to you

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Anonymous 16w

Cuddling is the best, I hate when people ruin it…

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Anonymous 16w

I get too emotionally attached for cuddles, only for an SO and maybe to a lesser extent a cat or dog.

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Anonymous 16w

Porque no los dos?

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Anonymous 16w

That’s all I want

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

Wym😭😭 i feel like thats one thing girls want

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Well apparently not

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

Well i do 😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Okay we probably don't live near each other so thems the breaks

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16w

Do you not discuss limits before meeting

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I’ve never meet anyone for physical intimacy before, that’s only for an SO if I ever get one, I only date for marriage if I actually could date.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

In wanting it and not always wanting it with sex

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

It does when they start groping or thrusting up while clothed which is extremely annoying

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16w

Im not talking about a hu anyways

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Well I wouldn’t cuddle with a friend either, I’ll get emotionally attached and awkward around them. Especially since our private parts, especially the breasts will be likely touching to others parts usually through clothes, I just can’t view cuddling as anything but for a non sexual, high intimacy thing with an SO.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16w

All good as long as you make sure you discuss those boundaries my post is primarily for answers for guys who cuddle alot

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I mean, I want to cuddle a lot, I just never found the person I’d be comfortable cuddling with.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Yes I agree, but just making sure you know! Cause Ik some ppl that think boner = horny and that just isn’t true!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

That’s fair

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16w

But at least youre not doing it for sex either

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I mean I imagine I’d only do it at random moments when we’re home alone, sleeping (💤 type) together, and yes after sex too if I hypothetically had a long term SO, I was comfortable getting physical with (not just sexual physical contact either, I am very slow, unironically even hand holding takes time for me 😭).

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16w

Very much the dating till marriage

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Yea, sadly most people are casual now 😭.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16w

Very true

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

Thats only for relationships or situations where its been discussed

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 16w

Every time i try just cuddle they always want more😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Full disclosure I’m a guy but like ur right, I try to set boundaries with people but nahh they don’t listen and it makes me feel disgusting

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 16w

The moment they don’t the moments over

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 16w

in what world is that not true any boner means horny doesn’t mean ur extremely horny but still horny

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

Thats not true but ok 👍you of course be horny with a boner but you can also be not horny with a boner

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

Not true at all guys get random boners all the time, especially younger guys during puberty.

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