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why did my bf send me this?for preface i don’t lift/workout regularly, just not my thing. i asked him why he said “don’t want you to get osteoporosis”. he constantly tells me how much he loves my body and how beautiful i am so idk what im doing wrong.
18 upvotes, 21 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Ask Men. "why did my bf send me this?for preface i don’t lift/workout regularly, just not my thing. i asked him why he said “don’t want you to get osteoporosis”. he constantly tells me how much he loves my body and how beautiful i am so idk what im doing wrong."
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Anonymous 5w

You haven’t heard of the crisis osteoporosis sweeping through 20 year old women ??

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Anonymous 5w

Not a guy but maybe he’s just kinda dumb and doesn’t understand that this post doesn’t imply lifting is the only way to avoid it lol

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Anonymous 5w

I don’t think it has anything to do with how you look. Idk he sounds like he has a genuine concern that you will get osteoporosis. I don’t think it was malicious tbh

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Anonymous 4w

Im sorry for all the illiterate assholes on here who can't finish reading a paragraph to save their life. It sounds like he may actually just be concerned for you but he's a little dumb and doesn't know how to properly express it.

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Anonymous 5w

I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong and it sounds like he’s trying to show he cares about you, albeit in an interesting way. Coming from someone studying exercise science in pursuit of a DPT (physical therapy), here’s my take on this: as you age, your bone density will naturally get lower, you can slow this process and even mostly prevent it by exposing your body to high compressive forces (weightlifting being the most common way). This has to be done somewhat carefully

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Anonymous 5w

I should probably lift I just do cardio and abs but honesty it makes me so miserable lifting alone 😭it ruins my day

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Anonymous 5w

I think the most generous interpretation would s he is worried that you aren’t loving your body enough

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Anonymous 4w

bro i think he wants u to lift. get into it

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Taking it at face value kind of thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

*would be

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 5w

honestly how did you get that from that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

He is worried about your future if u don’t care for your body

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Anonymous 5w

Idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5w

The reason why this matters is because biological women have less dense bones on average than biological men. Women are much more likely than men to develop osteoporosis as they get older, which puts you at a very high risk for injuries that will not be easy to heal from such as a fractured hip. You don’t HAVE to lift weights if you don’t want to, it is highly recommended however if you want to live a long, functional life. If you have any questions or want/need more clarity on anything-

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5w

I’d be happy to answer as best I can

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 5w

thank you for that but i’m not asking about why lifting helps prevent osteoporosis

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I think when your bf sent you that video he was more so expressing care/concern for your long term wellbeing instead of making a statement about how your body looks

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

well does ur bf lift ? if so, try w him

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

but srsly lifting is so superior

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 4w

I’m aMan

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 4w

did u miss the part where i said i don’t like it

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