
Ok on the two bj ones I think it matters whether those are for watching bj videos or asking for a bj. The second one is obviously cheating, but the first one, while gross, unfortunately most men today watch porn, so I wouldn’t make it an automatic deal breaker simply because who’s gonna replace him? I would talk to him about it, and if he wants to quit porn, understand that is essentially a dopamine addiction and that he may need patience and help. Offer to be his Covenant Eyes partner!