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Do guys not like shy/quiet girls (that may come off as awkward first few hangouts?). I’ve been told this now twice, where the guy says to me he’s very attracted to me but that I’m too quiet. I don’t think I’m too quiet, I make conversation I’m just shy
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Anonymous 3w

Shy can sometimes be read as uninterested so if you’re not going back and forth with a guy or at least answering questions then we just think you don’t like us that much. But I get what you mean.

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Anonymous 3w

Depends on the guy but personally I’m fine with shy girls as long as she isn’t so shy that it impedes her from having conversations on a deeper than surface level, or so shy that she doesn’t ever compliment me or say things that she wants to. So long as we can interact like people and I don’t have to carry every conversation, I’m totally interested in shy girls, even more than non-shy ones sometimes.

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Anonymous 3w

I don't like quiet/shy girls at all but that's such a personal opinion thing that it hardly matters. Don't worry, OP, a lot of people prefer the shy/quiet type.

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Anonymous 3w

Shy isn’t a problem , quiet is. I like someone who can talk forever

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Anonymous 3w

I’m just shy the first few hangouts and then I gradually get more comfortable. But at this point I’m hopeless cause it seems like they judge me from the first hangout and decide I’m too quiet

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Anonymous 3w

No

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Ya but my issue is I’m not shy/quiet when I’m comfortable I’m just having a hard time getting past the first few dates and getting to the comfortable stage 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

I can talk for a while once I get comfortable, I’m just having an issue with the first few dates I guess where I’m not comfortable yet

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

For me at least after the second date, shy starts to look like you are uninterested

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

I see what you mean, I actually think that could be my exact issue is that I’m more of a deeper conversation type of person and struggle with the first date surface level talk. (Not really struggle but it’s just not that interesting to me and I guess I could come across as shy). Not really sure how to get past it tho first dates are just so awkward hahaha

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

Yea I’m worried bc my only bf ever was someone I was friends with first so I’m reallyyyy having a hard time with this strangers straight to dating thing.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

this is generation that has demonized the friends to lovers method so while it’s easy to find links and hookups, LTR dont even seem possible

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

First dates are bound to be awkward, that’s just how they go. Yeah you just gotta push through it honestly. Good luck

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