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Why do men care how many sexual partners a random woman has had? (Long clarification in comments pls read first)

Anonymous 15h

I obviously think it’s okay to want someone with the same sexual experience as you or to want someone to have the same views on sex. I think this is very valid and healthy. But why does it matter if a random woman you have no interest in is what you consider a slut? I see a lot of guys say this about women they claim to not be attracted to. Also why do men generally feel the need to shame women who are sexually promiscuous regardless of attraction to them?

Anonymous 15h

I don't care

Anonymous 12h

Because why would I want my hypothetical girl to have had more dicks inside her

Anonymous 10h

Why are women so intent on normalizing higher risk of STDs? Its amazing how women hate men these days yet aren’t disciplined enough to refrain from having so much damn straight sex.

Anonymous

#1 15h

Wait, men care in general because evolutionarily it is more valuable to have a partner that is not promiscuous ao that you don’t have to worry about spending resources raising a child that is not your own

Anonymous

#1 15h

How does that make sense considering modernity though? That’s like saying as a woman, I naturally want to have as many sexual partners as possible to ensure my child is less likely to be killed by grown males (which is a real biological phenomena). With monogamy being the general norm, I don’t understand how this makes sense. Unless the implication is that because she’s had sex with a lot of other people she’s more likely to cheat? Which seems like a stretch

Anonymous

OP 14h

Also I should add if you don’t care, feel free to lmk as welll, I swear I worded this do men care not and not why so that’s entirely on me

Anonymous

#2 14h

This is how I realized I used “why” instead of “do” omg

Anonymous

OP 14h

We still carry that evolutionary programming. It’s why guys like girls with big butts or girls like tall guys. It is silly tho to care, which is why I choose not to

Anonymous

#1 14h

True, but I think it holds up a lot less since a lot of things we find attractive is also influenced by society. For example, evolutionarily men like women who are obviously sexually mature, and this often means bigger bodies and more curves. But most modern men prefer women with shaven body hair, which is a trait found exclusively in children because it’s been conditioned to be seen as appealing.

Anonymous

OP 14h

I think also explains why some men are so aggressive, if that’s the right word, towards women’s body counts. Sure there may be some evolutionary reasons somewhere in there, but mostly o think society pushes the idea that being a whore, slut, or easy is one of the worst things a woman can be.

Anonymous

OP 14h

It's one of the best things a woman can be ❤️❤️❤️

Anonymous

#2 14h

I’m neutral on it. I think it’s entirely ok to have a very low body count and entirely okay to have a high one as long as you’re respectful to any and all partners and are safe

Anonymous

#2 14h

I think sexually promiscuous women can be very happy if they are comfortable with short term relationships. I think hook up culture can hurt girls who are expecting to find men who are interested in a committed relationship

Anonymous

#3 12h

So you’d want someone with similar views on sex then? Like you’d want to both be virgins? I hear that view a lot and get it

Anonymous

#4 10h

There are plenty of ways to have a high body count without risking STDS! Anyways, this question is meant to be more subjective to individual views on body counts. You think then that a lower body count for me and women is what best then? (Not arguing or like provoking this is me genuinely making sure I understand you)