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Do guys get embarrassed if they can’t cum during sex
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Anonymous 1w

I’d take that considering I might not even be able to get it up out of fear

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Anonymous 1w

A little, but it’s not as bad as one pumping

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Anonymous 1w

No. I give a warning before hand that it might not happen/I might not get hard but I'm still happy to to be there or help her finish. I think I'd only be embarassed if it was like a random hookup and I hadn't been able to give a warning first

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Anonymous 1w

Im on SSRIs so this happens often and I get embarrassed cus idk when to stop

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Anonymous 1w

Ok so I’ve never had sex but I am on SSRIs so it may happen to me in the future. Uh I think I would be a little embarrassed but it wouldn’t be a reason I would no longer want to see the girl again. Unless she kinda just laid there and didn’t do anything lol

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Anonymous 1w

Kind of, I’m really more concerned with my partner, I get embarrassed if I can’t get them to cum

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Anonymous 1w

Yeah. I usually have some performance anxiety when I start dating someone. It’s gotten better over time, though

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Anonymous 1w

It is a bit embarrassing yeah. More so awkward

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Would it make u not wanna see the girl again

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

No, I didn’t cum the first couple times I slept with my gf and I’m still with her. One pumping would probably be something where she wouldn’t want to keep seeing me.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Ohh ok what causes a guy to not be able to cum

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Anxiety, lack of physical attraction, exhaustion (from being at the gym or something like that), a not good angle making it difficult to feel good for the effort put in. There are many reasons.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

Yea I feel bad bc like I feel like I wasn’t putting in much effort but I was tired and sick that night so I wanted to try again but idk if he even wants to

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yeah he does, just talk to him and ask him what would make it better for him

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1w

It wasn’t like completely random but that was our first time hanging out and he was able to get hard he just couldn’t finish. Idk why I feel bad that he couldn’t cum when I literally didn’t even 😭😭but yea he did kind of just stop and say he didn’t think he was gonna cum it was awkward

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

It’s common actually, new partner anxiety is real and can make it hard to stay hard or cum. It’s as can be as much of a mental thing as women cumming!

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1w

Really?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Yea it’s weird, I feel like I was kind of anxious for our first time too which made it a little awkward, I usually don’t get anxious with new parters but then again all the other times I’ve had new partners I was super drunk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Ye

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