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This. I feel like it’s so hard to connect with them even if they want to. Like what’s the point of talking to me then?
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Anonymous 2w

Idk I’m relatively open about myself and my struggles 🤷‍♂️but it takes time

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Anonymous 2w

How do you know I’m secretive and avoidant ?? I shouldn’t have even told you 😔

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Anonymous 2w

Thankfully I haven’t personally experienced it, but plenty of men have had their feelings weaponized by their partners after being vulnerable with them. That’s an experience that is very hurtful and gives guys who are already socially discouraged from showing emotion even more reason not to open up

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 2w

That turns us off. I left a guy I like bc he wasn’t open w his feelings

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I was joking. The ability to be vulnerable is crucial. I’ve actually lost a relationship because I was too vulnerable and emotional

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 2w

What’s such a thing as “too vulnerable “

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I guess in this case it would be returning to circular/unproductive discussions about my mental health and anxiety. I spent her energy by leaning too much on her for support

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 2w

So you kinda dumped it in here? Without getting help

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Yea, near the end I signed up for therapy, but that only helped me post relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 2w

Ah well. Yeah that sucks but you need help

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Oh yea, therapy and medication have changed my life, tho I’m not fixed

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 2w

Yeah I think a lot of guys have problem they don’t fix before meeting a girl and it messes things up. Experiences that first hand. They don’t like to seem emotional or get help

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Yea ig I always had a weird psychological block where I was terrified to reach out to others or ask for help, and once I found a gf she became an outlet to vent to and find comfort in. Many men rely on their partners bc they don’t want or know how to seek support.

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 2w

I had to learn that too. I had mental health issues out of nowhere and my cat died so I had to be upfront and face it. It can be hard 100% but bringing it to the surface helps a lot

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Its tough, issues that have been building up in our subconscious for years can instantly come to the surface once shit happens. Once I moved for grad school, my anxiety and insomnia were ratcheted up like 10x and after my gf broke up with me I kinda broke down. Fortunately I got help, but I should’ve sought it earlier

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Anonymous replying to -> oranguru 2w

I think if guys were more honest and less nonchalant they’re lives would be bigger

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

*better!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Yea !!! You need buy in for a relationship to work

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

I’m not saying it’s the right thing to do, but that is one of the big reasons

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