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Do guys every feel bad or regret hurting a girl with genuine intentions
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Anonymous 2w

Well yeah we’re human too

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Anonymous 2w

Rejecting a quality girl simply because I didn’t find her attractive was the hardest thing ive ever had to do.

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Anonymous 2w

I do

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Anonymous 2w

Also most of what guys do that hurts women’s feelings/egos wouldn’t even qualify as hurtful by guy standards. In almost every case, the guy has endured much worse and considers their own actions well within fair game. Admittedly that’s often what set the bar so low. In my case, the above USED to be true, but (much as I hate to be a cliche) my last gf messed me up so bad I don’t know if I’ll ever even feel empathy again. A lot of guys I know date like sociopaths and I think had the same backstory

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Anonymous 2w

Yes 👍

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Anonymous 2w

I do

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Anonymous 2w

I think most of us have never met a girl we believe had “genuine intentions”. Even the few I believed that of at the time, I look back at with the lens of more experience and think “oh wait, damn, she was trying to play me worse than I was”

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Anonymous 2w

Probably. Would not know

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Not sure this is true icl but I’ve def met terrible women

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

this is so shallow. you rather be alone and hurt someone bc you couldn't look past her physical attributes?? like how ugly could she had possibly been

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

You say it’s shallow, but imagine how you’d feel finding out that your husband/wife didn’t find you attractive. You’d be absolutely crushed. I’m not interested in “taking what I can get” I want to spend my life with a woman that I cherish in all regards otherwise it’s not going to work out.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

My reaction wasn’t quite as severe as yours, but I also had a terrible ex. I still worry about hurting good women, but that worry is no longer strong enough to overlook red flags.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

Pretty normal stuff. You gotta be attracted to them for a relationship to work out.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

It’s not tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 2w

what im saying is tho if you loved her personality im not sure why you couldn't grow to be physically attracted to her?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 2w

That is not how that works unfortunately 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

No I appreciate this a lot honestly. I would rather a guy reject me and just be honest then do what my guy did and pretended he thought i was so beautiful and then one year later cry to me about how he rlly tried but just didn’t find me attractive at all and he can’t do this anymore

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