Ask Men on Sidechat | I love my women friends but sometimes the hating men stuff gets annoying, not gonna act like it doesn’t come from a genuine place though bc the stories they have are real. But I don’t like being called “one of the good ones”

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Ask Men 5d

I love my women friends but sometimes the hating men stuff gets annoying, not gonna act like it doesn’t come from a genuine place though bc the stories they have are real. But I don’t like being called “one of the good ones”

Anonymous 5d

I get it fr (guy who has mostly women friends) honestly if u think u can have an honest conversation about how the constant man hating wears you down, and how a well timed joke/experience is def ok and funny and appreciated, but when it’s constant it just is not enjoyable to be around

Anonymous 5d

Sometimes man hating is done to conform.

Anonymous 4d

Tell them then. It doesn’t matter who is doing this shit but the whole gender war stuff needs to end.

Anonymous 5d

Think about it this way. The women who say you are "one of the good ones" mean they feel safe around you. You're not contributing to the problem that is making them feel unsafe, and instead being an example of why its important for women to be friends with good men. My gf and her friends make comments that all the time but I know they aren’t talking about me bc i've never done anything to contribute to their trauma.

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Anonymous

#2 5d

Besides, the fact that my gf hates man makes me feel safer. I know she'll never cheat on me bc of what she's experienced at the hands of other men. I didn't earn her trust or love easily, and i'd be shocked if she gave another man the time of day. I know how men can be and I honestly feel like women who hate men only act like that bc it keeps the safe. If i know she wasn't aiming at me why would I feel hit?

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Anonymous

#2 5d

Because it can be unknowingly aimed at good people too and let’s be real the “you’re one of the good ones phrase” would look horrendous in any other context on this planet as it should

Anonymous

#4 5d

I don't blame you bc it takes a lot of time and maturity and a real understanding of women to get out of this mindset. Just know that once you do, your relationship with the women in your life will never be stronger. A women who hates men but still loves you is perhaps the most rewarding feeling.

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Anonymous

#2 5d

What mentality man

Anonymous

#4 5d

the mentality of expecting women to not hate men. you said it would "horrendous" in any other context, but the reality is most men already hate women. they might not all realize they do but they do. im speaking from my own experiences. women need to be able to protect themselves and by saying they hate men tends to weed out the bad seeds.

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Anonymous

#2 5d

Dude maturity =/= having this ideology. Hatred is not healthy no matter which sex it’s against. And believing that it’s okay isn’t maturing

Anonymous

#2 5d

I don’t think generalizations and hate are good for society. Yes women need to be cautious but that can be done without villainizing men on a global scale

Anonymous

#5 5d

I never said my girl hated me. She hates men, and maturity is being able to separate yourself from that generalization. I'm glad to be "one of the good ones" and don't see why other men view that as a personal attack. I would hope the women I spend most my time with think i'm a good man. All complaining and "calling them out" on it is just gonna fuel their hatred more, and sometimes further down the line prove their point. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Anonymous

#2 5d

Could not say this about any other group of people

Anonymous

#4 5d

You are choosing to see it as women villainizing men when men already do that on their own. You are forgetting misandry is a direct result of misogyny. It stims from women's anger towards men from the way they've been treated for decades. It's why i consider myself a feminist because you're right. It's not good for society, and society will be better for everyone once men and women are treated as equals.

Anonymous

#4 5d

I don't see why you keep bringing up other groups of people? How is that at all relevant to the gender based discussion we are talking about? I highly recommend looking into intersectionality. Maybe then you'll stop comparing