Anonymous OP 2w

Through the whole relationship. I definitely ruined things. A couple of months ago he got overwhelmed and broke up with me over text and I haven’t heard from him since. I really want to fix things with him. I’ve done all of the things he begged me to while we were together. I’ve gone to therapy, I started anti depressants, I’ve tried my hardest to give him space since the breakup but definitely was not successful for the first month. I haven’t reached out in a few weeks and am going to (2)

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Anonymous OP 2w

I’d say you still need to give it some time. Especially since the first month post break up was hard. You’ve been through so much that I honestly think you’ll benefit from focusing on the internal work

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Anonymous OP 2w

try my best to not reach out for at least a few months. I’ve apologized profusely, I’ve owned all of my mistakes in my conversations with his family (we were very close with each others family, he talked to mine about our relationship at times as well). His family told me he still loves me, and he just needs time. I guess my question is general advice, and would you consider taking someone back in this situation?

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Anonymous OP 2w

so clearly he understands that you were under a lot of stress during that time, stress and emotions. However, you also directed those feelings negatively towards him during your time together well, I do believe if you two truly love each other and if he loves you, that there’s a possibility that it could all work out and y’all could get back together together. I do agree with three to take some time for yourself

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Anonymous alltrue_tism 2w

That's what he's been doing with his time away from you. The only way I see this working out with you guys back together is if you both work on yourselves and come back stronger better versions of the broken people you were during that hard time

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Anonymous alltrue_tism 2w

All true (ism). It’s great if you guys still have feelings but it will only work out if OP takes the time to fully heal and grow back stronger

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Anonymous #3 2w

Ba dum tss

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Anonymous #3 2w

100 percent agree

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Anonymous alltrue_tism 2w

Ye a sad truth is that infatuation is sometimes not enough without support systems and emotional health. Overall tho OP should stay strong and optimistic. It’s a four quarter game

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Anonymous #3 2w

I believe that in they truly love each other, then they can wait for each other

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Anonymous alltrue_tism 2w

I just don’t know if he is actually waiting or if he is done completely with the relationship. I feel like I don’t know where we stand right now. We had permanent bracelets together and he posted earlier without his on… that really hurt. It felt final. But maybe I shouldn’t take that as a sign

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Anonymous OP 2w

The thing is unfortunately if he's unwilling to at least have like one phone call just to go over things then you'll never know. And to be honest, he doesn't owe you a phone call or any contact. You're both kind of in a shitty grey area unfortunately.

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Anonymous OP 2w

It might have just felt weird to him wearing it while broken up. I know it would for me even if my real feelings were more complex. It’s so tough but don’t let this upset you or make you prematurely try to reclaim the relationship

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Anonymous #3 2w

100% most important thing rn as 3 has said is getting you back to one hundred percent

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Anonymous alltrue_tism 2w

Even one of his parents told me that they don’t agree with him not talking to me. And this parent knows all the details of the situation. But I see where you’re coming from at the same time. I was shitty and i understand why he chose this. Space felt safer to him emotionally

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Anonymous OP 2w

Space is sometimes yes the easiest safest option. That is the unfortunate truth of relationships. For now though, you need to focus on you as difficult as that may seem.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Especially with a guy his parents might not know all the details of where he’s at. It is comforting to speak to his family but ultimately it will never give you the assurance you want

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Anonymous #3 2w

Fair enough. His dad seemed to be able to accurately recite all of the issues to me but I guess it’s true that he may not know where my ex currently stands. And that conversation was a few weeks ago now. I’m so torn because I do truly love this man so much and I carry so much guilt for my actions. I wish I could take it all back but I know I can’t do that and he won’t even talk to me for now. It’s hard to focus on myself. Struggling w/ that

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Anonymous OP 2w

It sounds tough and it is, but you need to recognize that you cannot solve this problem in the next few months. It’s ok to devote some time in your day to grieving all that you’ve lost wrt to the relationship, but apart from that you need a full calendar and to reach out to the people that are there for you right now.

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Anonymous #3 2w

Unfortunately I do not have people that are here for me right now. Very much alone in this.

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Anonymous OP 2w

I know over the internet is different but if you ever need someone to talk to, I’d be happy to listen and try to help as best I can

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Anonymous OP 2w

I’ll never know exactly what you’ve been through, it’s harder than I even want to contemplate. But I experienced a rock bottom of sorts in my life after a break up and mental health stuff. I struggled to sleep many nights and felt I was gonna be swallowed, but life moved on for me and I’m better now and it’s gonna be better for you

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