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Ask Men 6d

Do y’all believe the male loneliness epidemic is legit?

Anonymous 6d

Not this sfsin

Anonymous 6d

There is a general loneliness epidemic that disproportionately affects men, and we should build resources to help everyone, while also including the needs for men

Anonymous 5d

Yes

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Anonymous 6d

This question has been asked like 5 times in the past week

Anonymous 5d

What from what I see on the ground, yes. Men do okay in isolation… most of the time, but it’s not great to remain in isolation too long. How quickly social stuff became synthetic with tiktok and IG was a major driving factor, people just saying or doing whatever was “trending” really made many of us not want to participate in the charade. I remember fighting with my ex almost every other day and it was as if her phone was coaching her to come up with some new BS I had to address each time we met

Anonymous 5d

i think there's a general loneliness epidemic but men tend not to have proper support systems because they believe they have to "man up" and go through it alone, which is why it may affect them more

Anonymous 5d

Idk about any of the stats but the important thing is there are men (and women but the question was about men) who feel lonely and depressed and I wish them the best to have hope and get the support and friends they need. I think it’s too often things like this turn into like a battle of the sexes when people should just have more compassion

Anonymous

amethyst_bacon 6d

At least

Anonymous

#5 5d

Higher suicides, less sex, less education, less 3rd spaces, less funding for programs that can bring men together, etc for those who aren’t making money together it’s grueling I suppose

Anonymous

#6 5d

And maybe culture has something to do with it but I’m sure that there are plenty of cases where the guys aren’t as socialized either so it’s difficult for them to integrate into social circles or make friends. But instead of making blanket statements about “women” or “losers” it’s probably a balance of being more welcoming and supporting as a culture with self improvement and hope

Anonymous

#7 5d

From what I see on the ground*

Anonymous

#7 5d

like dating tiktok? that side of tiktok infuriates me, it's so unrealistic and trend-based. i remember when people would get mad at their bf for not giving them "boo-baskets" when the average man doesnt even know what that is

Anonymous

vangogh 5d

Sort of. Got to the point where she would be mad about something going on in the world, (I was traveling not getting my degree) I would come home. She would be mad about it. I would tell her that’s not what I saw in that city/part of the world, then she would gaslight me because her phone told her I was lying. And it’s like… I was there. On the ground, looking at the thing she was mad about, and I was getting gaslight, through the news, into ticktok, into my gf’s brain, on things I saw. 🤦‍♂️

Anonymous

vangogh 5d

Or yeah just dumb relationship stuff “if he doesn’t do X he doesn’t love you” or it would make a thing trending where girls leave recordings for their BF, and I’m trying to come home and be less stressed, and the vibe shifted from “hey let’s go raise our spirits” to “10 reasons he’s cheating on you” or some other Greek tragedy she wanted to play out/examine.

Anonymous

vangogh 5d

So I’m like where is all of this coming from? TikTok. IG reels… whatever, I would always see the reel after she tried springing something on me, so obviously I can’t compete second for second of time spent with her with her phone, and it was this vicious cycle of her hearing all the bad things a boyfriend could be doing, and me having to address each one of those things instead of just being happy to see her.