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Do guys ever actually mean it when they say “it’s not you, I’m genuinely not ready/too busy for a relationship rn” or do they just not like the girl enough? The guy who told me this is a first year med student and we were barely able to date bc he’s busy
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Anonymous 5d

I think he’s being legit. From what I hear, med students are absurdly busy.

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Anonymous 5d

I thought we got along really well but I’m willing to accept he didn’t like me that much. But I also think he’s legitimately too busy to consistently date anyone with him juggling so much

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Anonymous 4d

Hi! Second year medical student here, he’s 100% being legit it’s tough out here. Unless you’re already in a relationship when he starts school or you are another medical student, it is extremely hard to give another party the time and attention they deserve and even if they say they’re okay with it, at least subconsciously the non medical partner will be upset that they arent being given enough time. Trust me

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Anonymous 5d

I’m a law student and I try to date but some weeks it’s simply impossible. If someone expected me to hang out multiple times a week I don’t think I could do that, but a lot of people do need more than a once a week hangout to connect w someone. For that reason, I kinda just gave up for the time being. Dating just became another stressor. I could see medical school being the same situation or worse than mine.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

I mean if you just said you were barely able to date because he was so busy, I think there’s your answer

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

What this really means is priorities. Everyone has a finite amount of time and energy, and has to choose how they want to spend it. If he’s too busy to date you, it means there’s other things he’s doing that he has prioritized as more important to him than dating.

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