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As a woman, i don’t know what i can do better to fix my horrible dating life. i would consider myself attractive, and i do get hit on a lot, but ive learned that the men coming up to me are always very shallow and lustful. i don’t dress in revealing 1
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Anonymous 5d

Most people have a horrible dating life. The only thing you can control is yourself. Such as how you pursue people and what you do in life to make you feel better and more confident

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Anonymous 5d

attire. i don’t post sexual pics/vids of myself, so please don’t tell me it’s how i present myself. i do well in school, i would say im smart and funny, and have a lot of different hobbies. but i really don’t even get to the point of being able to show it because all the attention i get is so shallow. i dont meet guys who want dates and a committed relationship, i meet guys who want to have sex with me. i’ve tried approaching guys first but then they don’t seem to actually be interested in me 2

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Anonymous 4d

I’m not saying you should manipulate, but you should probably tone it down. People like uncertainty, it’s kind of wild that we are like that when it comes to something so important, but knowing “this person is definitely into me,” takes some of the excitement out of it, and if you are going to naturally pull someone into your orbit, and tell them all the things about you that make them feel like you deserve love (if you have things like that) keep the excitement going, build some tension.

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Anonymous 4d

Honestly a good option might be to ask some friends to set you up on a date. That way there’s some amount of knowledge of the person not being a total shithead and if you don’t like them on the date then it is what it is

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Anonymous 4d

Approach men. Become friends with men, get to know them better and see if they are the caliber of individual you would consider dating, then ask them out.

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Anonymous 4d

TLDR

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

and they don’t initiate anything. and i don’t like passiveness. i also do activities that revolve around my interests, and some happen to be male dominated. in these spaces, i can’t even seem to get along with men because it’s like they’re all afraid of me, even after repeatedly being around them and being friendly. so my problem is, i don’t know how id meet guys that see me for more than just my body/looks and want to be in a loving, romantic relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

sure, but i do have a lot of friends in loving relationships. in my circle, i am the only one who struggles with this and it’s hard to talk about

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

That’s fair, there isn’t much advice to give other than keep pursuing people that you are interested, keep standards high, and better yourself

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

Like u can’t control how other people fit with u or if they pursue u or what they want

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

Girl same! Everything you said is everything that I go through lol. Get told I’m attractive but have a hard time dating yet all my friends have long term boyfriends

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

Same! It’s like I can tell they’re interested but they never come up bc they’re too scared. But I don’t like guys who r scared to come up anyway s

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4d

actually, my friends have tried this before but most of my friends have a limited amount of guy friends. i think the issue is, when they did try to set me up it was because the guy asked to be set up with me, not because my friends actually thought we’d be a good match. either way, 3/4 times this has happened, the guys actually avoid talking to me. they ask to be set up,but when i see them in person they never speak and i am left to carry the conversation. they dont give me anything to work with

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4d

Damn that sucks sry. Do you have any male friends you could ask or was this from both men and women friends? Maybe if you tried asking them to pick a match it would work better but I can also see how you’d be tired of that already.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 4d

i definitely think you’re right about toning it down. i realized that once i discovered even approaching first doesn’t work. i get your point about telling them things about me, but i usually only meet two types of guys, ones that approach me with the intention of sex and only sex, or ones that avoid me like a plague. i think the issue is really meeting guys that even WANT to get to know anything about me. i could talk about myself but it’s not like they’d really listen or do anything about it

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