Anonymous oranguru 4d

He grew up under the poverty line, meaning he grew up in a rough neighborhood. Meaning he made rough friends that are into not great things, violent people, etc

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Anonymous #2 4d

We also did break up once before bc someone he knew killed himself and he was mad I didn’t know how to support him

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Anonymous OP 4d

Is it fair to say tour brothers don’t think your bf is necessarily a bad person, but are concerned about the bad people he lets in his life ?

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Anonymous oranguru 4d

The way they talk sounds like “you are the company you keep” bc they know I don’t go around his friends. Not those ones at least

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Anonymous OP 4d

It sounds like they’re going more towards the overprotective brother side of things. They’ve already seen it not work out between you this guy once before, they probably worry that it’s going to be the same situation again

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Anonymous #2 4d

They didn’t like him before that either though

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Anonymous OP 4d

Has your bf made any effort to distance himself from the negative influences in his past. Are the bad friends from his childhood still big parts of his life ?

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Anonymous oranguru 4d

No he’s still really close friends with them and gives them money when they spend it all on their stuff

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Anonymous OP 4d

Then it’s not surprising that they like him even less now. It would take a lot to change their minds, but if you want to talk to your brothers about why they genuinely hate your bf they’d probably be able to give you more clarity than we can. It’ll probably be rough to hear their answers, but at least it would be honest

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Anonymous OP 4d

For his own sake; I think your bf should reflect on whether it’s actually worth it to keep these people around. It’s hard to separate from people you’ve known since childhood, but sometimes it’s essential for growth

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Anonymous #2 4d

He’s not like that though. He’s not mean, not addicted to anything. A great bf honestly

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Anonymous oranguru 4d

At a certain point, loyalty to people who are self destructing only serves to bring us down, and ceases to be a virtue

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Anonymous oranguru 4d

Yeah. He’s very vocally against their lifestyles. To their faces and to others. But is still friends with them. Just only hangs out very infrequently

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Anonymous OP 4d

Ok that’s positive. It’s good that he’s not in contact with these people all the time, he shouldn’t give away money to grown ass men tho

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Anonymous OP 4d

Their opinion of him is probably coming from a place of anger and worry. They worry you’ll get hurt by him again, they worry about him being involved with unsafe people, they worry you’ll end up getting involved and hurt by those unsafe people he knows, and they’re mad at him about how he treated you in the past. They don’t trust him.

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Anonymous oranguru 4d

No I agree and I’ve spoken to him about that. He’s cut back but he always talks about feeling guilty how they all basically had the same starting point and he ended up well and they went very far downhill

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Anonymous #2 4d

He also has split parents that both picked and chose when to parent him and when to kick him on the streets while he was growing up. And they think he’ll be the same although I don’t think that’s a fair assumption. They did the same with his much older brother and he turned out great, good man

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Anonymous OP 4d

I’m sympathetic to that— so much of how our lives turn out depends on luck and innate skill. The money just doesn’t help and those ppl probably need social services or sumn. Your bf sounds like a good man and I’m confident he’ll figure it out

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Anonymous #3 4d

Read the replies bae 😭

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Anonymous OP 4d

Sounds like they don’t like him cuz of who his friends are

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Anonymous #3 4d

Sounds like it

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Anonymous OP 4d

It’s understandable tho people typically hangout with similar people

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Anonymous #3 4d

And I agree but he isn’t like that. He said he almost got wrapped into it but it wasn’t for him

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Anonymous OP 4d

I get that but can you for sure say he’s not gonna lie or cover for them if something popped off

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Anonymous #3 4d

He definitely would do that

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Anonymous OP 4d

If you’re brothers know or think that then that’s probably the reason

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