Anonymous dark_blue_post_office28 2d

Yeah, just really annoying yk and plus i cant take back the past

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Anonymous #2 2d

Yeah, i like to think those days are over but im actually just taking a pause from sex so its easier said then done since its been a while but who knows whats gonna happen when im back into it

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Anonymous #3 2d

What?

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Anonymous OP 2d

The guys who do that are not here

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Anonymous #3 2d

99% of the men who dm me on this app act like that

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Anonymous #2 2d

I meant ask men

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Anonymous #3 2d

How do u know? How are you so confident that this section that is open to the public only has good guys in it? Especially when most of the men I talk to on this app suck, it’s an anonymous app where they can be as horny and mean as they want without showing their identity, i’ve been begged for nudes on here as well

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Anonymous OP 2d

Because I’ve been here for years. This place has the least bad men. You literally couldn’t have picked a worse place on this app to post this

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Anonymous #3 2d

This is the ask men’s section, i can make an ask, why are you reading so deep into this? I just made a post to men, I don’t give a fuck if posting this in a different section would maybe have been more efficient

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Anonymous #3 2d

Especially when u dont know every guy on here and the men on here also change

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Anonymous OP 2d

1. I know better than you 2. This is a place to ask men questions, not to tell them how annoying they are or whatever

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Anonymous #3 2d

What do u know better then me? You know every man in this section? And I’m asking them to stop, thats my ask

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Anonymous #4 2d

They better

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Anonymous #3 2d

Ur showing me that this post was worth making cuz bad men like u exist in this section

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Anonymous OP 2d

I mean I exist and I know I'm not the best person in the world so

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Anonymous OP 2d

I know how people in this community generally are. And that last part doesn’t make sense because I’m not one of the guys who does that 🤣

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Anonymous OP 2d

And it’s not worth posting because this is a place to ask men *questions*, not tell men what to do. Again, pretty much anywhere else is a better place for that

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Anonymous #3 2d

It got positive attention tho besides u, other guys commenting normal and didnt get severly downvoted so whats the problem?

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Anonymous #5 1d

No its just really hard to keep saying no after a while and being told reasons why you should do stuff to the point where eventually u do stuff and regret allowing it after, i just dont get why they cant just take “no” for an answer the first time

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Anonymous #6 1d

But u can get influenced and manipulated, it gets annoying say “no” after a while and being told why you should do stuff and then u just feel the regret of allowing it after

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Anonymous OP 1d

But you are in control of all of that. 🤷🏻‍♂️

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Anonymous OP 1d

Pleasing people is fine as long as you don’t have to sacrifice yourself all the time to do it. If you don’t want to do something, don’t. The reason you feel bad after is not only the regret of doing something you didn’t wanna do but also because you let someone else control your behavior. But you let them do that. That’s on you.

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Anonymous #7 1d

Yup, ive been coerced into things, once it happened while i was drunk and im not in the mood to open any of these things up yk, i dont want to speak to those people again so i just left it alone and think abt it sometimes

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Anonymous #6 1d

Its on both of us yes but it wouldnt have happened if they didnt start w the coercion

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Anonymous OP 1d

And their persistence would not matter if you said no. No one can control you unless you give them permission to do so and allow it to happen. It’s that simple.

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Anonymous #8 1d

I appreciate it, bare minimum but not always the case

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Anonymous #6 1d

Saying no repeatedly gets repetitive and its makes me feel bad

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Anonymous OP 1d

Agreed

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Anonymous OP 1d

So you feel bad when you say no, but you also feel bad when you say yes because you have given into what someone else wants you to do? This is 100% a you problem. Nobody shares blame in this.

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Anonymous #6 23h

Yeah you sound like a trash bag of a person. I can tell you’re the type of guy to ask a woman what she was wearing after she got assaulted.

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Anonymous #9 23h

No. But I do believe in personal responsibility and the OP is just whining. She wants people to change what they ask of her and how they behave but she doesn’t wanna change any of what she does because it’s uncomfortable even though the way they’re treating her is also uncomfortable.

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Anonymous #6 23h

Im literally just saying men should be like beggy and take no for an answer like the first or second time instead of being persistent w it

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Anonymous #6 23h

Like i said, i am partially responsible however none of this would have happened if i didnt feel any pressure to begin with

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Anonymous #3 23h

How would you know how men treat women better than a woman?

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Anonymous #6 22h

You’re ignoring the way women are socialized and how coercion works. How does you whole personal responsibility narrative work for survivors of dv?

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Anonymous #10 22h

Oh, I totally get all that. And people do things and except behavior because as bad as it might be, it’s comfortable for them and it’s what they know and fear is a huge motivator and all that stuff. I get all that. But at the end of the day, everyone has a choice. Also, domestic violence is thousands of miles away from what the OP here is talking about.

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Anonymous OP 22h

That’s my issue. You are not partially responsible, you are 100% responsible. I’m not defending anybody’s behavior. They may be selfish. They may be greedy. They may be horny. They may not care about you at all. They may be a petulant child who just thinks the more they ask eventually they will wear you down, etc. the list goes on. Again, the decision is 100% yours.

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Anonymous #6 18h

If u think men manipulating people and continue to push after hearing “no” are 0% to blame then we have nothing more to talk about

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Anonymous OP 17h

Excellent!

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