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Why do guys abandon you after a hookup? Not trying to be part of hookup culture
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Anonymous 1w

I wouldn't abandon her I'd comfort her and tell her how amazing it was

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Anonymous 1w

Don’t worry they always come back

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Anonymous 1w

I don’t hookup with girls then abandon them

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Anonymous 1w

I’m thinking about saying this Should I be like hey sorry for being a Debbie downer but I’m starting to feel like I was just being used for my body if I am being honest and doesn’t feel great

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Anonymous 1w

No, I haven’t said anything after he ghosted me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Well maybe try that

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Should I just send the text that I said above?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Ig

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Maybe try a less accusatory and more inviting one first?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

What should I say?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Maybe just try and continue the conversation or make plans or something. Something low pressure that doesn’t put him on the spot or make him feel defensive.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

But I already asked him though

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Before he ghosted me because I was like, hey, you wanna go on a hike and then he just left me on opened this is exactly what I said. “Bruh you left the huge hickeys all over my neck lol you munching on that. Anyways are you still down to go for a hike today maybe at the butte or maybe later this week?”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

But he left me on opened after that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I thought he agreed to the hike?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

No

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I mean, yes, but then he didn’t follow through

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

He let the streak die too

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yeah i don’t he gonna respond unless you offer more pus, which you shouldn’t do to someone who obviously used you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Don’t think*

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Should I just send the first message that I originally was gonna say?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

The one where I talk about how I felt, I was being used for my body?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

If it’s been a while since you sent the last message and he opened it then sure. But if you send to many messages he’ll think you obsessed and it’ll drive him further away.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Last message I sent was like two days ago on Wednesday

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

And he opened it today

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Maybe wait a few more days to see if he responds then.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

What time did he open it today?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Couple hours ago

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

So you keep giving him hints to follow up on the hike but he keeps ghosting you. I’d say he doesn’t really care. Send the message about how you feel about him and your body. If he leaves you unopened again, he really really doesn’t give a fuck and ghost him or unadd him.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

OK, this is what I’m planning to say Should I be like hey sorry for being a Debbie downer but l'm starting to feel like I was just being used for my body if I am being honest and doesn't feel great it feels like I was objectified as a lady

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Yeah that’s good

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