Anonymous #2 4d

It hurts because we talked about “us” multiple times and he said he wanted to take things slow. But in the end he just said “I don’t want to lead anyone on, I’m sorry, can we still be friends?”☹️ I told him on date 3 that I wanted more but I was willing to wait.

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Anonymous #2 4d

It was clear my feelings were stronger than his.

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Anonymous OP 4d

He probably meant it, until he realized you didnt. Willing to wait how long? Forever? Was he supposed to believe that? Did he seem that gullible? Because idk you, but even I’m extremely skeptical of that. And even if you thought it was true when you said it, you should be skeptical too. In my experience (+ apparently his) most women, sometime between now and forever, will lose interest. If you make the relationship fully one-sided until then, he has no reason to hold out hope and take that risk.

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Anonymous #2 4d

Idk who hurt you😭 but I was definitely planning on becoming his gf. I told him that, and I was 100% willing to wait! But when he ended things just a few days ago he literally said “I’m sorry but I’m just scared of committing, you’re perfect but I just need to work on some things.” Oof, I cried in front of him☹️.

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Anonymous OP 4d

Doesn’t matter who hurt me, it wasn’t exactly an isolated incident, thank you though. And that’s kinda my point. Maybe he didn’t just want someone to “plan” to be his gf. He wanted someone he believed would follow through on it. Anyway, then what does “taking it slow” mean in this context? I assume it was the same situation as the “mixed signals” he pretended didn’t bother him. Pretty much anything that would come off as either of those things would be something he’s right to worry about.

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Anonymous #2 4d

What I meant by the “mixed signal” part I just sent it because during our first couple dates I would get super nervous and awkward😂. Mixed signals wasn’t the correct term for me to use. I was just overthinking. And I didn’t literally use the word “plan” when telling him, but I made my intentions clear. I guess “taking things slow” for him meant taking things step by step. He would bring up how comfortable around me he was and how he could just be himself (multiple times too).

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Anonymous #2 4d

So I was in complete shock when he ended things because everything was going so smoothly!

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Anonymous OP 4d

Well don’t guess, I’m asking what “taking things slow” meant for you, not him. And “step by step” isn’t an answer lol, it doesn’t mean anything. I noticed you also didn’t answer about how long you were waiting, if not forever? What were you waiting FOR anyway? Did you guys ever establish that? Bc if not, that’s a great reason to end a situationship Do you see what it seems like the problem was? Things were going smoothly… to nowhere

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Anonymous #1 4d

Commitment is scary okay

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Anonymous #1 4d

Hey uh… time & place to be “I told you so”ing someone who legit thought she had a good thing going. Some grace wouldn’t kill y’all.

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Anonymous #1 4d

No men are men😭 they aren’t boys, they are grown ass men doing this. I hate when ppl say “oh it’s boys not men” sorry

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Anonymous #2 3d

You’re an idiot. She didn’t ask him to take things slow and expect him to wait forever; *He* requested that *she take it slow*, and she agreed to go at his pace and said she could wait however long he needed.

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Anonymous OP 3d

That said, as much as it may hurt I think he just wasn’t that into you. He gave it a chance, went out a few times, but I think the reason he asked to take it slow was because he didn’t want you getting too attached, because he did not expect this to really go anywhere.

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Anonymous OP 3d

So what you do now is move on, and find a new guy who does seem more interested in a relationship with you.

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Anonymous #6 3d

Thank you #6😭, you explained it much more clearly. HE was the one who asked to take things slow, and YES I was willing to wait for as long as he needed me too. But I now understand he just didn’t see a future with me.

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Anonymous OP 2d

It’s rough out there, and I’m sorry he wasn’t it, but I promise you it gets better

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Anonymous #2 2d

me when i lack comprehension skills

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Anonymous #8 2d

I haven’t contacted him at all. And I won’t for a looong time (but I’m probably never going to interact with him again).

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Anonymous OP 2d

In purely platonic fashion, do tell if you wanna commiserate 😂

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Anonymous #8 1d

🫡

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