Anonymous OP 1w

Side note but you should look into dsip for insomnia might help you sleep better. He should be understanding that you have things you really can’t control so he needs to be mature

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Anonymous OP 1w

He is correct that you ignored him but you had a reason why. Whether that is a good reason or not is subjective. If you’ve communicated the reason and he isn’t happy and you don’t agree with changing thats going to be hard to reconcile.

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Anonymous pirosnake 1w

You have a boundary, not talking to people when you are trying to sleep, however unsuccessful you are. Either he changes his mind and accepts the boundary, you change the boundary, or it stays an issue.

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Anonymous pirosnake 1w

I totally agree. He may be aware to the extent but in regard to a fight I feel like there is some overlap with your boundary and things left on uneven terms. This boundary is totally fair but I feel that it should be communicated like this person said at least so they know it’s unrelated to the argument. Even at that you could talk it over and keep an open mind if you really want but it’s really not your fault especially given the circumstances but I get how he could’ve felt from that

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Anonymous pirosnake 1w

So idk (I really don’t fucking know) how we got to this point, but he’s not talking to me for the moment. He came over the next day cuz I felt it’s a situation to discuss in person. Anyways, obviously wasn’t a good idea cuz it somehow ended with him yelling that what if it was something really important and he actually needed me (??). I didn’t really understand why he’d say that, so I asked if it was an emergency, why would you text at 2am when the person could be asleep? Why not 911??

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Anonymous OP 1w

Or like we’ve talked about, call if it’s really an emergency. If he called at 2am, I’d pick up even if I’m dead tired, cuz we’ve said that if one of us does this, then the other would know it’s an actual emergency.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Long story short, I’m being insensitive and he said I should take some time to actually try to understand it because the fact that I don’t understand, is concerning.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I hate this because I used to have emotional blindness before (cuz of my ptsd), but I went to therapy and I’m honestly better now. But yesterday had me questioning, because I still don’t understand and it feels like this whole situation is getting bigger and bigger.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Okay you are not his baby sister and I’m assuming you’re older a grown man should not be relying on his significant other to care for his mental in the case of an emergency. Seek help call 911 or something. You have things of your own going on. How hard is it to understand that

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