Anonymous #1 7w

Having a preference of hair color vs saying one hair color is for “hookups” and the other is long term relationship material is just kind of confusing to me with the thought process

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Anonymous OP 7w

!!!

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Anonymous OP 7w

If that’s how they feel, you can’t do anything about it. Ofc feel free not to date men

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Anonymous #1 7w

I understand that and I didn’t match or like the guy. I don’t understand the thought process

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Anonymous #5 7w

Wait I’m confused how is it insulting to brunettes? Isn’t it good to be wife material?

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Anonymous #9 7w

Ironically this guy is in Harvard law😭

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Anonymous OP 7w

Legally blonde 👱

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Anonymous OP 7w

So he’s either just good at studies or he’s a nepo baby, doesn’t mean he’s smart socially or philosophically

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Anonymous #9 7w

Hey siri play nepo baby by Fox szn

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Anonymous OP 7w

well it’s saying brunettes aren’t fun and blondes aren’t wife material

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Anonymous OP 7w

Something to be aware of that I learned while interning at the help desk on campus, the longer you’ve studied in academia, the worse you are at EVERYTHING else. Spent 7 years studying rocks in academia highly likely you can’t hold a conversation with a woman or figure out how to pay your taxes or maybe how to get basic maintenance done regularly to your car. Academia is a massive island of misfit toys, unsure if it attracts those types or if it makes those types.

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Anonymous #11 7w

Rocks are underrated… I’ve solved many mysteries at worked based on where which rocks were and it’s not even my primary field of study, I just picked it up from coworkers who were rock people.

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Anonymous #8 7w

At work*

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Anonymous #11 7w

As someone doing a PhD, this sentiment is true in the sense that academic attracts a lot of people who are misfit and atypical, but you can totally develop life skills as long as you have a good work life balance and use opportunities like TAing and group research to improve your communication skills

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you’re being intentionally obtuse rn i’m not dealing w it

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Anonymous #10 7w

Fairly certain that’s a worldwide thing not isolated to white people, nor was it ever isolated to white people.

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Anonymous #10 7w

It’s actually pretty bad, and so stupid. Red heads get bullied still and are assumed to be temperamental (likely originated due to the historical views of the Irish). Bleach or super light blondes are assumed to be ditzy and are sexualized. Honey blonde & dirty blonde is treated with a more girl next door attitude. Brunettes are often seen as more intelligent but stiff and somewhat boring. Black hair is sexualized and considered mysterious. Any unnatural hair color and you are “crazy”.

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Anonymous #19 7w

Every unfounded accusation is an admission of guilt though so… anyone saying those things is just revealing something they are worried about being themselves.

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Anonymous #8 7w

Not always If a white person makes a comment on an asian person being smart/no personality or a black person liking chicken, thats not them “revealing something they are worried about being no themselves”

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Anonymous #17 7w

Those might be founded accusations then, not unfounded.

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Anonymous #17 7w

Also who doesn’t like chicken? Black or otherwise?

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Anonymous #8 7w

I’m just bringing up examples of stereotypes gang I don’t actually believe them to be true And how can you say they’re “founded accusations” like what does that even mean? Black people liking chicken is supported by evidence?

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Anonymous #17 7w

Yeah black people like chicken… just like everyone else. Are you saying your own eyes have shown you that black people don’t like chicken?

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Anonymous #8 7w

The stereotype isn’t that black people like chicken the same as everyone else Its that they overwhelmingly like chicken, thats where the insults come from, same as watermelon I also gave the example that of asian people and their stem abilities compared to personalities and passions…your response was also that thats a “founded accusations”

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Anonymous #17 7w

They are founded. Everyone else likes watermelon too. Those are some of the silliest things to try to craft an insult with and stick to the rule even though they are founded. People who also like chicken and watermelon overwhelmingly appear to be projecting it onto black people even though it’s founded because perhaps they aren’t at peace with how much they love chicken and watermelon themselves? The desire to project insecurities isn’t often a rational one. The rule of who projects what 1/2

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Anonymous #8 7w

2/2 does become rational once you understand how it functions. It pairs well with the social idea of “people rarely talk trash about people doing worse than them” So they see someone enjoying food they like, and they try to craft an insult out of something like “those people enjoy delicious food!” And then somehow enough people bought it that it’s some kind of human hive mind guilt about enjoying two of the most flavorful foods readily available… as absurd as it is, it’s true.

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Anonymous #8 7w

For awhile black people weren’t allowed to own large animals so they raised chickens (kinda like how they had to grow watermelon bc they could actually sell it, it didn’t need huge fields, and they wouldn’t get in legal trouble for growing it) Most of the racist stereotypes about black people stem from them being successful, creative, or just trying to exist. So it’s probably the fragility of “white superiority” that reflects on them.

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Anonymous #17 7w

So for hair, you ever notice the people who call redheads fiery do it with a bit of flame in their vibe? People who think brunettes are dull are often dull themselves? People who think blondes are sexualized (that might be founded, I blame Hollywood and the porn industry) but often either desire more attention of that flavor than others. They are all tells for personal insecurities. I know some DUMB Asians as well as smart Asians, so you will rarely ever see me perpetuating the idea.

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Anonymous #19 7w

Yall keep talking about this “white superiority” and I havnt seen it. What is it about white people that is superior? I reckon that’s a tell as well about a concern many people have about being inferior to a bunch of noodle armed Adderall addicts.

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Anonymous #19 7w

And yes that’s a founded accusation. I’ve observed many white people to have noodle arms and addictions to prescriptions. Their whiteness does not grant them superiority.

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Anonymous #8 7w

Oh I’m not saying white people are superior at all I’m saying the racists who believe those stereotypes think they are superior.

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Anonymous #19 7w

That’s not exactly a universal thing for all races but the concept of pride being the cardinal sin does tend to blind every person who identifies primarily with their race. “People who have nothing to be proud of they’ve done as individuals tend to be proud of their race” so yeah you’re gonna have people of every race like that. White people included. You don’t often see the most successful white people waiving KKK flags nor do you see any other race sporting the equivalent if they have 1/2

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Anonymous #19 7w

2/2 archived some level of success themselves. That’s got layers of insecurity imbedded into it as well because the world is still a pretty wicked place right now so being “successful” does not make a person righteous.

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Anonymous #8 7w

100% agree white people are not superior. I say this as a white noodle armed (prescribed) adderall user. I was trying to say that racists idea that they are superior is so fragile that it is threatened by success of minorities. Aka racists have fragile egos.

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Anonymous #8 7w

this whole hair color hierarchy phrenology shit is white only bro, i'm sorry to tell you that you aren't the center of the universe. other races are aware that most hair colors other than brown and black aren't real so we don't assign personalities to them to this extent. as a black guy, i've never thought of someone as a blonde or brunette outside of the literal color of the hair and i don't even use those words because i date black women.

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Anonymous #10 7w

Who said I wasn’t black? And the redheads look pretty real to me. Idk what eye genes you got, but mine aren’t colorblind.

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Anonymous #10 7w

Yep I agree African here and hair colour hierarchy is only for white people Sure some places might praise/admire maybe blonde hair? but that’s only because its rare We dont have stereotypes or personality traits associated with different hair colours I also thought its the silliest thing in the world considering people can just dye their hair

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Anonymous #17 7w

I mean yeah. They do it everywhere. Ever see the Japanese or Korean culture around it? Put’s American’s dying their hair to shame.

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Anonymous #17 7w

yeah, i'm not saying that we're better than white people for not saying that hair color suggests something about someone's character because instead of doing it with hair color, we do it with skin tone. for ex., light skin men are seen as feminine and dark skin men are seen as more masculine and sexually capable. dark skin women are masculinized and seen as aggressive. light skin women are seen as stuck up. etc. of course many people don't believe that stuff though because it's nonsense.

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Anonymous #10 7w

I didn’t say anything about anyone being better And I didn’t say you think that I was just agreeing with you and giving my experience as back up 😭

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Anonymous #17 7w

no i was agreeing w u gang, just offering more context to my original comment

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Anonymous #10 7w

I would be willing to bet the people who perpetuate the light skin stereotype are worried they are a bit too soft themselves. One of the toughest guys I knew when I was active duty was a light skinned guy. Won a local MMA tournament (with nationally ranked fighters) without breaking a sweat.

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Anonymous #10 7w

Ohh ok

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Anonymous #3 7w

Work life balance is bold words coming from a Ph.D candidate 😂 (I do agree working to use the opportunities you have to work on the skills you’re missing though!)

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Anonymous OP 7w

The way that men see wives has never felt like a compliment. Oh, you see me as someone who you want in your life so I can cook for you and be the “ball and chain”? No thanks

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Anonymous #21 7w

You are being intentionally reductive. As though women do not do the exact same thing with their husbands.

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Anonymous #21 7w

As a blonde it doesn’t feel good to be considered hookup material either and constantly sexualized and told I’m not intelligent

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Anonymous pirosnake 7w

100%

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Anonymous pirosnake 7w

Idk, if often feels like women are still objectified by men. Like we’re just there to be a part of their lives. And he literally is boiling women down to their hair color, so I don’t know how out of bounds I am

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Anonymous #21 7w

Yeah this guy is just trying to rustle some jimmy’s so a potential match is like “no way!” And prove him wrong. He’s def not thinking that deep about it.

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Anonymous #8 7w

Yeah it’s so stupid. Nothing turns me off more than a guy explicitly telling me I’m not his type and insulting the way I look. I’m all for playful teasing but negging doesn’t work on me

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Anonymous OP 7w

As a guy: 100% that totally makes sense. I was agreeing with pirosnake about the “wife material” comment. #21 made it sound like “wife material” means “oh you must be my chef and my “ball and chain””. Pirosnake was saying that’s NOT what the phrase means”wife material” means, and I agree with him. Just like how women use the phrase “husband material” to mean a good reliable life partner, that’s what men mean by “wife material”

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